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Probably a byproduct of being with a girly girl but she loves talking about her feelings. I'm pretty evn tempered and don't really express dramatic emotions. I'm not very lovey dovey because I can't take myself seriously doing that but now she complains that I don't show my love for her. Quite frankly if I didn;tcare for her I would leave. Wht are your takes on it?
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Originally Posted by Sex Money Murda
I just feel ridiculous trying to be affectionate, I feel weak and what not.
men are from mars, and women are from venus. understand this;
1: men tend to be action oriented, women tend to be emotionally oriented.
2: men tend to be hunters, women the gatherers
she needs you to open up to her about your feelings, and there is no crime in that, it doesnt make you weak. and there are ways to show her you care without getting to open. for instance on your way home form work one day, buy her a rose, just because its thursday. or head over to jareds and pick up one of their charm braclets that you can occasionally add a charm to , again just because its tuesday.
and verbally letting her know how you feel is also a good thing, but you dont have to open up and spill everything. women do like a bit of mystery in their man.
Probably a mix of societal conditioning and how I'm wired. Back in HS guys who wrote love letter and all that cliche crap were made fun of severely. The culture of where I;'m from encourages guys to be stoic and macho and what not.
Societal conditioning rarely encourages you to be truly authentic. These people (in high school and out there in general) have plenty to say, but will not be there to console you when their opinions and advice fail you. If this is how you truly are, so be it. There are plenty of people out there like you who don't need all kinds of affection and communication. But if you have any kind of urge to be more open, nurture it. Let it just be. If it becomes too much, someone will let you know. But to shut down in order to keep up with "society" is self defeating.
Probably a mix of societal conditioning and how I'm wired. Back in HS guys who wrote love letter and all that cliche crap were made fun of severely. The culture of where I;'m from encourages guys to be stoic and macho and what not.
Love letters aren't the only way to show affection. Touch her more often. Cuddle with her. If you think she looks good - tell her. If you she does something that you appreciate - tell her. If you miss her - tell her. Leave her a post it somewhere with a happy face on it. Leave her a flower on her pillow. Buy her her favorite candy bar. There are so many little things you can do to show affection. Take baby steps until you start to feel comfortable.
Love letters aren't the only way to show affection. Touch her more often. Cuddle with her. If you think she looks good - tell her. If you she does something that you appreciate - tell her. If you miss her - tell her. Leave her a post it somewhere with a happy face on it. Leave her a flower on her pillow. Buy her her favorite candy bar. There are so many little things you can do to show affection. Take baby steps until you start to feel comfortable.
Probably a byproduct of being with a girly girl but she loves talking about her feelings. I'm pretty evn tempered and don't really express dramatic emotions. I'm not very lovey dovey because I can't take myself seriously doing that but now she complains that I don't show my love for her. Quite frankly if I didn;tcare for her I would leave. Wht are your takes on it?
What are you against? Holding hands? Hugging? Giving compliments?
What DO you do that would be considered loving or caring for someone?
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