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Most men don't actually care. The only ones who do are those who equate income with manhood, and those guys are not really worth hanging out with anyway. Further, women who only date rich guys are no great catch each.
Look, if a girl is really worth it, she'll only care that you're financially sound, and she doesn't have to bail you out. That you're making money and not squandering it.
Me personally I would have to be doing SOMETHING. I wouldn't feel right if he was working and I was just sitting around doing nothing. I want to have something to work towards and worth putting time into. I think it's about being equal and being fair.
Not saying that if one person has an amazing career, doesn't mean the other has to have an amazing career, but at least have a decent job. My point is, I would want to DO something to help contribute to the household.
IMHO, the key thing - regardless of gender - is that the potential partner is not going to quickly end up as a "financial black hole." That's the type of stuff that kills relationships.
I don't care if she makes relatively little, provided she thus spends relatively little, and by the same token, she's not an automatic shoe-in just because she makes a lot of money since she could still be underwater if she also spends far more than she makes.
if someone can live "sustainably" without accruing debt, that's a big plus. (in purely practical terms)
I agree, I care more about the debt than her income, it shows a lot about how she manages the money she does have. I know sometimes things happen and you get behind, but yeah... the debt is a good metric to go by.
When I met my current husband, I was making $20,000 as an office assistant. He didn't care about that. What he cared about was that on that salary, I had been able to put enough money away to buy a very modest house and a decent used compact car and other than that, I had no debt.
He said that he saw that I didn't waste money, and that impressed him more as to my character and how I would be as a partner than if I had been earning $100k and spent every penny of it living a frivolous lifestyle.
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