A woman's income -- do men really not care? (love, couple, social)
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When I used to work at the front desk of a gym, I would get hit on all the time by the members. This was in a very affluent area and many of the members were very successful. Some of them knew that I had a college degree and that I was pursuing a career in performing and some of them did not. I don't think they really cared.
I've been wanting to hit on the girl who works at my gym, I hate making the place I relax awkward though.
She came up and asked me what I thought about the placement of some equipment yesterday, not sure if that was an invite or she was looking for opinions on where to have them put the new cable machine. What do I muster? I just agreed with her and asked what else they're updating. I hope she doesn't notice me checking her out, I can't help it. I try to use the ol' 3-4 mirror method.
I'm sure she doesn't make a lot of money, but she's one of the most attractive women I've seen since moving to Vail.
I've been wanting to hit on the girl who works at my gym, I hate making the place I relax awkward though.
She came up and asked me what I thought about the placement of some equipment yesterday, not sure if that was an invite or she was looking for opinions on where to have them put the new cable machine. What do I muster? I just agreed with her and asked what else they're updating. I hope she doesn't notice me checking her out, I can't help it. I try to use the ol' 3-4 mirror method.
I'm sure she doesn't make a lot of money, but she's one of the most attractive women I've seen since moving to Vail.
Lol.
I never felt that awkward after someone asked me out - but that's just me. I took it as a compliment and then just stayed friendly with them. It wasn't a big deal to me - but I can't guarantee that that's how everyone would react.
If anything, I think they prefer the woman makes less than they do. Gives them a sense of control or power, and it makes women less intimidating to them, at least among the men my age.
I'm not sure how true this is, I've personally never met any woman that makes more money than me, but I wonder if I was dating women that did how I would deal.
I'd like to think I would handle it ok...
Edit to add... I didn't mean to come off as arrogant, I guess I just haven't met that many women.. LOL
I'm not sure how true this is, I've personally never met any woman that makes more money than me, but I wonder if I was dating women that did how I would deal.
I'd like to think I would handle it ok...
You may not have dated a woman who made more, but I assure you, you have met one that has.
My views on this topic are going to incur opprobrium from both the "feminists" and "alpha male" camps, but here goes:
To me, culture and class are far more important than income. I'd be far more interested in the daughter of an ambassador or of a tenured university professor, who herself earned a degree in French Literature from Harvard, and now works part-time for a non-profit, still living with her parents… than a spunky high-school-graduate raised in a trailer, who got an online certificate in massage therapy, parlayed that into a successful business, and now owns a thriving chain of fitness-centers.
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Originally Posted by JJS99
I know a number of women who have absolutely no career to speak of, let alone any kind of $ and are happily married to men who are quite high on the desirability scale.
It is entirely possible that these women are former young-professionals, with excellent education and good career prospects in their 20s. However, after marrying they chose the role of hostess-wife, supporting their husbands' careers instead of advancing their own. Fast forward 20 years, and they appear to have "absolutely no career".
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Originally Posted by Chowhound
I'm not sure how true this is, I've personally never met any woman that makes more money than me, but I wonder if I was dating women that did how I would deal.
Me too. Lest I be impugned for being laughably pretentious, I'll say this: I live in a declining, rust-belt town, where the only lucrative employment is in my field, in my workplace. And our workplace is overwhelmingly male, overwhelmingly married, and overwhelmingly 50+.
It is entirely possible that these women are former young-professionals, with excellent education and good career prospects in their 20s. However, after marrying they chose the role of hostess-wife, supporting their husbands' careers instead of advancing their own. Fast forward 20 years, and they appear to have "absolutely no career".
Lol. Career prospects means nothing these days.
Either you have a job where you make some $, or you had a job where you made some $.
Unless that woman had an MD and never used it, then yes, she had career prospects.
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