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I went out to dinner with a former co-worker of mine a week ago. He has been working in the U.S. for the past few months and is moving back to Europe in two weeks. Other than having drinks together a couple months back and exchanging some instant messages here and there, we really haven’t spent time together. Anyway, the other night we had dinner and when the bill came he took it and paid. I tried to pay but he said it was ok. So, I thanked him and we ended our night.
In my mind, that meant nothing other than he was just being nice. When I mentioned it to my male roommate, he said that the guy is just trying to get on my nice side so that when he wants to make a move, he can do so easily. Again, this guy is leaving for Europe in two weeks. Forever. I will likely see him one more time to say bye before he leaves. He has never shown any romantic interest in me whatsoever.
The only reason I bring this up is because every time a male friend does something nice, my roommate makes a comment about the guy wanting more than friendship. Is it true that a majority of men only befriend women and do nice things for them because they are hoping that one day it will progress beyond friendship?
No, it's not true. If your roommate keeps saying so, that tells me two things. Either he's jealous or he's speaking for himself and assuming all men think like him. I feel sorry for your roommate. Sounds like he has a very cynical attitude about men.
I have a question. If every time a man does something for a woman he's trying to get something, what does it mean if does the exact same type of things for another man?
I have a question. If every time a man does something for a woman he's trying to get something, what does it mean if does the exact same type of things for another man?
It means he's trying to sleep with the guy's wife.....
I went out to dinner with a former co-worker of mine a week ago. He has been working in the U.S. for the past few months and is moving back to Europe in two weeks. Other than having drinks together a couple months back and exchanging some instant messages here and there, we really haven’t spent time together. Anyway, the other night we had dinner and when the bill came he took it and paid. I tried to pay but he said it was ok. So, I thanked him and we ended our night.
In my mind, that meant nothing other than he was just being nice. When I mentioned it to my male roommate, he said that the guy is just trying to get on my nice side so that when he wants to make a move, he can do so easily. Again, this guy is leaving for Europe in two weeks. Forever. I will likely see him one more time to say bye before he leaves. He has never shown any romantic interest in me whatsoever.
The only reason I bring this up is because every time a male friend does something nice, my roommate makes a comment about the guy wanting more than friendship. Is it true that a majority of men only befriend women and do nice things for them because they are hoping that one day it will progress beyond friendship?
Sounds like your roommate is the one with the issue.
I went out to dinner with a former co-worker of mine a week ago. He has been working in the U.S. for the past few months and is moving back to Europe in two weeks. Other than having drinks together a couple months back and exchanging some instant messages here and there, we really haven’t spent time together. Anyway, the other night we had dinner and when the bill came he took it and paid. I tried to pay but he said it was ok. So, I thanked him and we ended our night.
In my mind, that meant nothing other than he was just being nice. When I mentioned it to my male roommate, he said that the guy is just trying to get on my nice side so that when he wants to make a move, he can do so easily. Again, this guy is leaving for Europe in two weeks. Forever. I will likely see him one more time to say bye before he leaves. He has never shown any romantic interest in me whatsoever.
The only reason I bring this up is because every time a male friend does something nice, my roommate makes a comment about the guy wanting more than friendship. Is it true that a majority of men only befriend women and do nice things for them because they are hoping that one day it will progress beyond friendship?
your room mate is so so protective, meaning he has been looking at your curves, if other guys dont keep freinds without expecting somthing else, he is also other guys that cant keep a room mate without creeping over her activities & dates.. there are men that do keep female freinds, help them, give them money, employ them, give them good connection without demanding for the said next level.
This thread is 6 years old but I read it. I think some guys just like fantasizing about being with a woman and that's all he wants for whatever reason, but if she gets another man, then the fantasy he's been enjoying so much will be ruined so he might try to block that.
I went out to dinner with a former co-worker of mine a week ago. He has been working in the U.S. for the past few months and is moving back to Europe in two weeks. Other than having drinks together a couple months back and exchanging some instant messages here and there, we really haven’t spent time together. Anyway, the other night we had dinner and when the bill came he took it and paid. I tried to pay but he said it was ok. So, I thanked him and we ended our night.
In my mind, that meant nothing other than he was just being nice. When I mentioned it to my male roommate, he said that the guy is just trying to get on my nice side so that when he wants to make a move, he can do so easily. Again, this guy is leaving for Europe in two weeks. Forever. I will likely see him one more time to say bye before he leaves. He has never shown any romantic interest in me whatsoever.
The only reason I bring this up is because every time a male friend does something nice, my roommate makes a comment about the guy wanting more than friendship. Is it true that a majority of men only befriend women and do nice things for them because they are hoping that one day it will progress beyond friendship?
I think in many cases they do in hopes of getting some action from her. If not consciously then subconsciously even if they try to convince everyone and themselves of the opposite. As long as they don't make any unwanted advances towards her I see nothing wrong.
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