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I don't think so but you can tell him happy fathers day.
PS-daughter should be with him on fathers day.
I happen to agree but that is between him and his ex wife and as such I do not offer my opinion. Put it like this, have you ever heard of a woman (not on drugs, not mentally ill, not an alcoholic, etc) voluntarily giving up physical custody of her 5 year old daughter? I don't think she is interested in fathers day nor parenting at all.
You're not his daughter or mother of his daughter, so your involvement in that aspect of his life wouldn't warrant a card or gift in my opinion ... not yet anyway. As he won't be with his daughter that day, I'd make him brunch or another good meal and just acknowledge the day verbally. His not seeing her that day might be a sad/sore spot too.
I have no idea what is the etiquette here as I have never . Should I buy a small gift (or make a meal etc) or no? A few facts:
We have been "official" for a few months (met around 1990 and recently reconnected)
He is the custodial parent
His daughter is with her mom on weekends and will be there this weekend so he will not be spending the day with her
Daughter is 7, mom will not be facilitating anything in his honor
So, what say you?
Take the opportunity to teach his daughter the importance of doing something special for her dad in honor of Father's Day, since mom is obviously not going to do the right thing.
Encourage her to make him a card that she can give him before she leaves for the weekend.
A nice gesture on your part would probably be appreciated too - dinner at his favorite restaurant or a home cooked meal on Sunday
I happen to agree but that is between him and his ex wife and as such I do not offer my opinion. Put it like this, have you ever heard of a woman (not on drugs, not mentally ill, not an alcoholic, etc) voluntarily giving up physical custody of her 5 year old daughter? I don't think she is interested in fathers day nor parenting at all.
Yes, if
1) she puts her busy career ahead of everything else
2) she's young and wants to enjoy being single and didn't really want to be a Mom in the first place
3) she thinks "saddling" the ex husband is "punishment"
I would recommend acknowledging Father's Day in some way ... but not necessarily a gift.
He is not your father, nor is he the father of your children, so I would not give a gift. Since you care about him, I think you should just wish him a happy father's day and maybe just cook him a nice meal.
JustJulia, honest to goodness, I didn't read your post until after...
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