"Boyfriend" is a single dad. Should I give a father's day gift?

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by luckynumber4

Well, I think all this time you've thought wrong.

good grief, what's the matter with some of you folks?

I too buy cards for people I know who are not my father or mother for these occasions.

It's fine with me that you don't do the same, but it's rude to tell others they are "wrong" for doing it.

[timberline742]

Say happy father's day and give him a gift, not something you would buy, IFYKWIS

[JustJulia]

Having three children, I see these cards a lot. I looked at a bunch yesterday. They are either glowy, gushy "You are such a super great dad" (which the OP probably has little real knowledge of as a new girlfriend who rarely sees the daughter) or silly jokes about farting couch potatoes. I think a verbal acknowledgement over waffles beats an insincere card any day.

[OngletNYC]

My mind is made up, I will cook us a very nice brunch!

Slightly off topic, why are the people who believe that I should not acknowledge the day at all so angry about it? The no responses are so harsh and rude instead of a simple "I don't think you should do anything" or "I disagree with so and so". What gives? Do you folks have absentee father issues or something?

[captaincatfish]

Originally Posted by OngletNYC

My mind is made up, I will cook us a very nice brunch!

Slightly off topic, why are the people who believe that I should not acknowledge the day at all so angry about it? The no responses are so harsh and rude instead of a simple "I don't think you should do anything" or "I disagree with so and so". What gives? Do you folks have absentee father issues or something?

I don't post that much anymore, but I will speak up when I feel I must

At the end of the day, you are an adult...true, this forum IS a place where folk can come to agree and disagree, but when you click that red 'X' in the upper right hand corner, City Data fades into the ether, and as such the opinions rendered there, including mine, become moot

However, whether you want to cook brunch, give him a card, involve his young daughter, fly a cement kite, whatever...the bottom line is, do what YOU think is right, and tune out all the extraneous woofing and barking

[RedZin]

Originally Posted by OngletNYC

My mind is made up, I will cook us a very nice brunch!

Slightly off topic, why are the people who believe that I should not acknowledge the day at all so angry about it? The no responses are so harsh and rude instead of a simple "I don't think you should do anything" or "I disagree with so and so". What gives? Do you folks have absentee father issues or something?

I like your idea. Though I admit that I suggested it. LOL.

You are showing that you know it is Father's Day and you appreciate that he's a good father. Ergo, you appreciate him as a man that you care about.

Sounds very sweet.


I dunno why people get so het up sometimes. This is the Internet. It can be a strange place.

[noghre111]

OP, nice brunch is a very good idea. It's a small token of appreication; everyone needs to be appreciated for doing the right thing.

[Idon'tdateyou]

I only get my parents things for mother's and father's day but my parents buy presents for my brother and sister in law. I think they are wrong for doing so since they aren't their parents. No, I don't buy my boyfriend a father's day gift nor did he buy me one for mother's day since neither of us are parents. I wouldn't buy him a present unless he was the father of my child.

[Just One of the Guys]

You don't have to buy him a gift, but there is nothing wrong with wishing him Happy Father's day. Heck I wish coworkers a Happy Father's or Mother's day weekend on Friday before I go home for the weekend.