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Guaranteed she has cheated a number of times. I've seen the types and this is how they feel after it all doesn't work out the way they hoped for. She's lucky she's got a stand up partner willing to stick it out good through bad. Hope she's really learned a lesson on this one.
But since she's 30 and thinks its a mid life crisis I suppose she's got alot more to learn. Best of luck.
I understand why you would asked that- I thought I liked someone from work but nothing else came out of it because not only am I married, my life was consumed with work. My job swallowed all of me that I can't give myself to anyone, not even to my husband-
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As a woman who was hell bent on climbing up the corporate ladder, I neglected my personal relationship with my husband. We were on the brink of getting a divorce and a week later, I was fired. I called my husband the day I was fired and told him what happened. We talked further when I got home and he told me "We will be fine, I have a good paying job, you can go back to school if you want to"...... I expected that from him, but I feel worse because I did not treat him well when I was a busy career woman. I had a good job, and I thought I no longer love him. I have this belief that I can do better. I was having a midlife crisis (I just turn 30, and we have been married for 8 years). I attended corporate parties and I enjoyed spending time with my work colleagues as well as my business partner. I thought I was invincible. Until the day I was fired, my world collapsed. I discovered the true colors of people who I associated with and the only person who stand by me was my husband.
I was able to do a self reflection and I don't like what became of me. My career had been the focal point of my being and it shouldn't have. I forgot who I was. I'm still grieving for losing my job, not because of the job itself, (I came to realize how much I actually hated my job) but because I lost my everyday routine- I got up 5 OR 6 AM, came home by 6 PM or later . I'm practically working 7 days a week. Wow, that was my 5 years.
I'm looking forward to a new beginning with my husband. If I go back to work later or anytime soon, I promise myself to put my husband and my family first before my job. No job is ever worth losing a family for.
Congratulations. I'm always amazed that people invest more into their careers than their spouse. Your spouse is the one that will be with you when you retire and die.
As a woman who was hell bent on climbing up the corporate ladder, I neglected my personal relationship with my husband. We were on the brink of getting a divorce and a week later, I was fired. I called my husband the day I was fired and told him what happened. We talked further when I got home and he told me "We will be fine, I have a good paying job, you can go back to school if you want to"...... I expected that from him, but I feel worse because I did not treat him well when I was a busy career woman. I had a good job, and I thought I no longer love him. I have this belief that I can do better. I was having a midlife crisis (I just turn 30, and we have been married for 8 years). I attended corporate parties and I enjoyed spending time with my work colleagues as well as my business partner. I thought I was invincible. Until the day I was fired, my world collapsed. I discovered the true colors of people who I associated with and the only person who stand by me was my husband.
I was able to do a self reflection and I don't like what became of me. My career had been the focal point of my being and it shouldn't have. I forgot who I was. I'm still grieving for losing my job, not because of the job itself, (I came to realize how much I actually hated my job) but because I lost my everyday routine- I got up 5 OR 6 AM, came home by 6 PM or later . I'm practically working 7 days a week. Wow, that was my 5 years.
I'm looking forward to a new beginning with my husband. If I go back to work later or anytime soon, I promise myself to put my husband and my family first before my job. No job is ever worth losing a family for.
You lost your job, now the real job begins. You got some making up to do, since he's had your back all this time and you've probably been a slacking on your wifely duties, since you were thinking that you don't need him. Life has a funny way of humbling us sometimes. Good luck in your marriage.
As a woman who was hell bent on climbing up the corporate ladder, I neglected my personal relationship with my husband. We were on the brink of getting a divorce and a week later, I was fired. I called my husband the day I was fired and told him what happened. We talked further when I got home and he told me "We will be fine, I have a good paying job, you can go back to school if you want to"...... I expected that from him, but I feel worse because I did not treat him well when I was a busy career woman. I had a good job, and I thought I no longer love him. I have this belief that I can do better. I was having a midlife crisis (I just turn 30, and we have been married for 8 years). I attended corporate parties and I enjoyed spending time with my work colleagues as well as my business partner. I thought I was invincible. Until the day I was fired, my world collapsed. I discovered the true colors of people who I associated with and the only person who stand by me was my husband.
I was able to do a self reflection and I don't like what became of me. My career had been the focal point of my being and it shouldn't have. I forgot who I was. I'm still grieving for losing my job, not because of the job itself, (I came to realize how much I actually hated my job) but because I lost my everyday routine- I got up 5 OR 6 AM, came home by 6 PM or later . I'm practically working 7 days a week. Wow, that was my 5 years.
I'm looking forward to a new beginning with my husband. If I go back to work later or anytime soon, I promise myself to put my husband and my family first before my job. No job is ever worth losing a family for.
Guaranteed she has cheated a number of times. I've seen the types and this is how they feel after it all doesn't work out the way they hoped for. She's lucky she's got a stand up partner willing to stick it out good through bad. Hope she's really learned a lesson on this one.
But since she's 30 and thinks its a mid life crisis I suppose she's got alot more to learn. Best of luck.
I felt this way because I lost my job. Just last week, my career was flourishing- I thought "life was good". I gave everything to my job- my time, my mind and my soul. I wanted to be more than where I am in my career (I was proud to be one of the youngest woman in my profession). But I blink and it's gone. My husband is the the only treasure I have left.- Also, in my first post- I did say there that my marriage was on the brink of divorce, we were actually in discussion of separation (I could careless at that time). My husband could have left me since we were in agreement that our marriage is not working out. But he stayed- he said he loves me and wanted to be there for me. This in turn fueled my guilt and made me realized how much I hurt him.
Last edited by HeadacheFan; 06-11-2014 at 08:22 PM..
(You can only listen when men tell you what they want)
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I guess you're that kind of husband then? lol
You missed the point of her post. I would explain it but...nah.
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OP now all you need to do is get pregnant, never wear shoes and you will be whole and complete as a woman.
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A good overall lesson. Remember that work should is and should be a PART of your life not your life. Pouring your entire life into your work and nothing else is not a good idea because you are always replaceable as a worker.
Given the choice of being happy or a success at work, I will chose happiness every time.
I understand why you would asked that- I thought I liked someone from work but nothing else came out of it because not only am I married, my life was consumed with work. My job swallowed all of me that I can't give myself to anyone, not even to my husband-
So, you wanted to cheat, but you were too busy to cheat. If you were not too busy and the other person is interested also, you would have totally cheated?
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