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I was reading online about psychopaths and it was exactly what i was experiencing read the excerpt below.
The Psychopath’s Hook: Love Bombing, Sex and Flattery
"Psychopaths typically engage in whirlwind romances. They can’t get enough of you. They want to see you and make love to you all the time. They flatter you constantly.They tell you that no woman they’ve ever been with is as smart, as beautiful, as classy as you are. You are the one true love of their lives. Their only love. Victims tend to eat the flattery up, since after all, who doesn’t like to be told such positive and beautiful things? They don’t ask themselves a common sense question: Why is this guy flattering me so much?
This is, indeed, the first question you should ask yourself if you’re being “love bombed,” as they say, by anyone. How many healthy individuals do that? "
"And what makes you so special that out of all the people in the world you turn out to be the most beautiful, brilliant and exciting of all? Could it be that this man has an ulterior motive? Could it be that he told each one of his main targets the same lines?"
The guy who I was talking to gave me a lot of compliments, saying i was the prettiest girl he ever saw in his life, (I thought that was suspect, weird actually) Putting it on way too thick. Silly me, i was rather flattered.
He made plans with me, then canceled, and then said he found someone else the very next day. We were only talking for 3 weeks, we had dinner once and that's it.
Have any of you ever experience this. I will admit i was a bit naive.
psychopath is quite the strong word. i think you are over thinking this, and have just dealt with someone who is rather scatterbrained, or more likely he had several irons in the fire, and you were one of those irons. he was able to pick up the iron he wanted first.
If these traits are what lables a psycopath/sociopath then nearly every person I know has socipathic tendencies.
I believe you are looking way too far into it. That guy was pretty much doing what a lot of guys do when they want to hook a girl. They tell you what they think you want to hear, try to make you feel special. It happens all the time.
I don't hardly pay it any attention anymore. This guy doesn't sound like a sociopath at all.
Sociopaths usually take longer than a few weeks to get the person hooked. They continue the love-bombing for months before they start to devalue, so that the person is easier to gaslight ("In all this time, have I ever given you a reason to doubt me? This is all in your head.").
Also, once they have a victim, they don't let go that easily. They don't care who their source is, and they take the path of least resistance, which means that once they have a source, they don't want to put the effort in to find another one. They will fight tenaciously to hang onto a source and will not discard the source until they are good and ready, usually by having someone else lined up. When they finally do discard, it's after a long period of devaluing in which they destroy their source--emotionally, financially, and sometimes physically.
So all of this unfolded too quickly for you to really know for sure.
If these traits are what lables a psycopath/sociopath then nearly every person I know has socipathic tendencies.
I believe you are looking way too far into it. That guy was pretty much doing what a lot of guys do when they want to hook a girl. They tell you what they think you want to hear, try to make you feel special. It happens all the time.
I don't hardly pay it any attention anymore. This guy doesn't sound like a sociopath at all.
Yeah, agreed. Actually, I think calling such a guy a psycho or sociopath is bad, because it waters down the threat level associated with somebody who is actually dangerous and really deserves the psycho/sociopath title.
Probably not. Just a guy who found a woman he wanted to be with while he happened to be dating you.
Would it make you feel better to call him a psychopath?
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