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As a man I believe in equality but when it comes to my romantic life, I feel that always paying for the date makes me feel more masculine and traditional. I acknowledge that this is a double standard but it suits me to do so and my date is happy with this.
This thread isn't much different from those skewering women who don't cook, wear skirts and high heels, or stay home with the children. Each gender comes with its trappings.
As a man I believe in equality but when it comes to my romantic life, I feel that always paying for the date makes it easier to get in her pants, and traditional. I acknowledge that this is a double standard but it suits me to do so and my date is happy with this.
As a man I believe in equality but when it comes to my romantic life, I feel that always paying for the date makes it easier to get in her pants, and traditional. I acknowledge that this is a double standard but it suits me to do so and my date is happy with this.
Therefore, making you feel more masculine and traditional ... same thing, brah!
This thread isn't much different from those skewering women who don't cook, wear skirts and high heels, or stay home with the children. Each gender comes with its trappings.
let's say you have a date with a guy...free jazz concert. You have a good time. Later on the way home he asks if i want to grab a bite to eat. We stop at wendys because we're on foot and just really hungry. He orders his food first and pays. I order my food (just two orders of chicken nuggets and a soda) and he doesn't pay. Not even an offer. I hate to admit this but i was soooo turned off by this. I mean come on dude it was $4, not like you paid for the concert. Not that i care about money but this just screams cheap to me. He just asked me out on another date but ladies would you even want to go?
You know skip the feminism, skip the special treatment, skip the "biology" skip the semantics of equal and same and skip the whole double standard. It is all really just preferences and its really petty. I don't think anyone lost of chromosome for not acting a certain way.
I will pay for date or split depending on the situation. I don't associate paying for a date with some masculine what ever about go getting or providing or any sort of really streching it reductionist "biology" that gets posted since my mom, sister and gals of mine had paid for me or themselves so I see no point in trying to hold a monopoly on it because of my XY and that is not going change any time soon.
I agree with the poster that said if a person just spoke for themselves these discussion would not be so hostile.
I don't need my coworkers to make me feel special, needed, beautiful, etc. And I don't want my romantic interest to make me feel like we have a working relationship. I'm not sure why this is hard to understand...
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Originally Posted by trishguard
If he were interested in you for anything other than friendship he would have paid. If he is a nice guy that you wouldn't mind having as a friend you should continue to do things with him just like you would with your lady friends. But he is not relationship material for you.
What makes a date special is two people with mutual romantic interest sharing each other's company, getting to know each other, and enjoying each other. However the bill is paid or whomever pays it has nothing to do with that. Dates can do plenty of free, fun activities and still feel a special connection.
This thread isn't much different from those skewering women who don't cook, wear skirts and high heels, or stay home with the children. Each gender comes with its trappings.
I'm not sure such a thread exists unless it was started by someone who's doing all the work, paying all the bills, etc. But I've never seen it.
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