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We are in our late 20s,( 28 to be exact), childless, and newly married. I went to UT, she skipped college and has done various jobs since high school, bud no longer works. We dated in high school, broke up a few times, but always found our way back to one another. Anyway, newly married and she's become irritating. She's always had bad days where it's best to just not " poke the bear". She'll whine about everything. At first, I tried being apologetic with " I'm sorry Honey, it was my fault", but that turns into " You should be sorry" so now I just go straight to irritated sarcasm. Few weeks ago I woke up, she wasn't there. I went on the treadmill, music in my headphones blaring. I get done running, walk upstairs and see all these grocery bags. First thing she says is " Gee, thanks for the help." There are 5 bags, 5. In the past " sorry Sweetie." would be the response, but now, like I said, over the top sarcasm. I turn to her and start the theatrics. " Oh God, you had to carry 5 bags, by yourself, Oh God say it ain't so, you should rest, how did you do such a monumental task? Oh the agony you endured, thank you." Probably not the best move, but its my last resort. She gets on me about a lot of things. But for every fight there is, there are a lot of fantastic moments too. Strongly considering counseling, haven't pulled the trigger yet.
Maybe she is not fullfilled by the life she has (no job, maybe not enough hobbbies or anything else that makes her feel good about herself) and she is letting it out on you.
Is she not working because she can't find a job, or by choice?
Sarcasm is not the key to fixing this, although it may be your knee jerk reaction after dealing with her attitude for a certain amount of time. Have you tried reaching out to her and asking her what is wrong during a calmer period? Have you considered opening up the lines of communication?
It may take a few tries but if you want your marriage to work, you need to do something. Otherwise, you're on your way to becoming a statistic.
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