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A bored person is likely going to be boring to others.
An interested person (interested in others, in various things in the world around them, in life) is probably going to be interesting to a decent number of other people.
An ability to communicate in a way that is engaging and inclusive to others is essential to being an interesting person. I believe that's true whether you're a homebody or a person who is well-traveled. Very interesting people are capable of making most subjects seem palatable. They also are able to talk about their seemingly routine day in a way that holds others' attention.
I also think there is a difference between a person who has an interesting life/lifestyle...and an interesting person. There are some people out there who have had all sorts of nice life experiences all over the place...yet they're such a bore to actually talk to and hang out with.
I believe there is a correlation between how happy someone is with himself and his or her own life, and how interesting he comes across to others (provided he isn't too self-absorbed). And vice versa.
I find many people interesting. If people are nice people and fairly easy to get along with, I will converse with them. As my Anthro professor once said, "Everybody has a story to tell." I am a person who is typically willing to listen to your story.
What I typically find is that people are difficult to talk to because I am not interesting to them or because we don't have a flow that they respect.
In other words, I typically find that I am the one who is not interesting to the other person. So, I try and cut people a lot of slack on deeming them boring and nexting them, whether friends or potentials.
Unpredictable is not an asset, as far as I'm concerned. In fact, it's a red flag for instability. Some people find unstable people to be endlessly interesting, they feed off the drama...I don't count myself among them, though.
I find many people interesting. If people are nice people and fairly easy to get along with, I will converse with them. As my Anthro professor once said, "Everybody has a story to tell." I am a person who is typically willing to listen to your story.
What I typically find is that people are difficult to talk to because I am not interesting to them or because we don't have a flow that they respect.
In other words, I typically find that I am the one who is not interesting to the other person. So, I try and cut people a lot of slack on deeming them boring and nexting them, whether friends or potentials.
Interesting people combine good stories with good storytelling!
Interesting people combine good stories with good storytelling!
It was a metaphor actually.
What it means is that everybody has a path and experiences in their life and they want people to hear about those experiences.
Time is precious for people. They will typically only engage themselves in listening to the stories which most excite or grab them. Even 'boring' people have experiences to share.
Anyway, I prefer a person who is open to a lot of different things. I find people to generally be inflexible. They like to define who they are based on a fairly rigid set of parameters. They like to go to the beach but they abhor the city. They like jazz music, but they are repulsed by sports and bars. People 'like what they like.'
As long as I am physically able, I'll try most anything.
The number one thing is the ability to keep a fluid back and forth in a conversation.
No matter how much crap you know, if you cannot effectively participate in the give and take, it is dead in the water.
I have met people who don't know much, don't hold much book learning, etc, but I could spend all day with them because they are willing to listen and to form opinions and share theirs and speak well about the things they do know about.
And I work with insanely educated people who pretty much only talk gossip or about themselves. I feel those people are boring. I know other people enjoy them because they are nice people who have friends... but they are the kind of people who are only comfortable with superficial chitchat.
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