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What is it with the bickering going on between the two of you on this particular thread?
And blueshirt222:
What is it with the bickering going on between you and another poster?
I thought my original response was pretty innocuous compared to some of the other posts. I was basically saying he shouldn't get offended over someone else's POV. Not sure why he felt so attacked by it but I believe he assumed that when I said "move along" in my original response, that I was telling him to leave this thread. Don't know for sure though.
Really this city data where the idea of splitting the check on the date causes so much drama and people getting all overly huffy about the end of humanity then suddenly this poster is overreacting and looking to be offended?
OP I agree with everything in that post and the rest of the intellectual laziness and dissonance can just ignored.
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Originally Posted by Hivemind31
Part of maturing is being able to take statements of ignorance in stride. Does it bother me to hear these things? Sure, but I also know that someone that closed-minded isn't going to learn anything from talking to me about it anyway. You see comments about "real men" all over these forums, including from women. If anyone one individual believes that they have the secret insight that dictates any level of maturity, honor, manliness, or any other cultural phenomenon about an entire gender, just let them continue to play in their sandbox.
The things it takes to "make a man" will of course be different than the things it takes to "make a woman".
There are clear biological differences related to reproduction. Other than that I can not think of a single thing that "makes a man" or "makes a woman". Perhaps you can regale us with these differences?
You know when people love to post "inspirational sayings" on FB? I came across this gem recently:
"A man’s rite of passage is loving a woman with all of his heart.
Until a man can love a woman the way she deserves to be
loved, he’s still a boy. "
I have no problem with a man loving a woman with all of his heart but considering it a "rite of passage"
that defines whether he transitions from a boy to a man if he doesn't love a woman the way she "deserves"
to be loved? Ugh.
Can you imagine switching the genders and how offensive this would immediately sound to women?
"A woman’s rite of passage is loving a man with all of her heart.
Until a woman can love a man the way he deserves to be
loved, she’s still a girl. "
Sounds like something from the 1950's on how to be a good housewife, doesn't it?
Yet, in 2014, we have no trouble at all defining the passage into manhood by how well a given man loves a woman as much as she "deserves" to be loved.
While I am at it, I am a little sick and tired of this notion in our society that manhood is something that must be earned by doing X.
"If you don't do X you are not a real man and are still a boy."
In my mind, you become a man when you reach the age of majority. Whether or not you are a good man or a bad man is another issue but since when is manhood itself up to society and usually women to define it's threshold?
The sentiment above just REEKS of entitlement and shaming language. You don't "deserve" to be loved just by virtue of being born a specific gender. Love is a two way street.
Sexism is also a two way street. It's sexist to think women deserve special treatment or should be placed on a pedestal just because they are female.
Now, I love my wife with all of my heart and do little and big things all the time to show her this, as she does for me but that's because we are compatible, we love each other and have put effort into the relationship. It also had a large degree of luck involved as I know plenty of good people, male and female who have not had the fortune of meeting their true loves yet.
Um...you're making a mountain out of a mole hill...
This the way the world is now OP. Deal with it. You can be sexist to a man all you want, but say something slightly critical about women (even if it's true), society will want your head.
I think OP is mainly complaining how its cool for women to post negative generalized **** about men, but the other way around is considered ridiculous and extremely sexist
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