Are these frequent fightings "Passing Clouds"?

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by Maila

You know at that time, he wanted it. My instincts would not have been wrong. Somewhere down the line he started loosing his love for me. I could ask others about this but you sure I should involve family? So far, other than my sister, I havent told anyone about this. My mom would be worried sick if she even gets a whiff of whats happening.

YES, I would involve his family given that they arranged the marriage and in your culture younger folks are supposed to defer to their elders in bad situations like this.

[NewbiePoster]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

YES, I would involve his family given that they arranged the marriage and in your culture younger folks are supposed to defer to their elders in bad situations like this.

But in S. Asian culture, isn't there a tricky dynamic between the daughter-in-law and the husband's parents? That may not be the best route. Correct me if I'm wrong, OP, but isn't there a tendency to fawn over the son, and find fault with the daughter-in-law, or have high expectations of her? Those in-law relationships can be a bit tense.

[Jenn--X]

Originally Posted by Maila

I told him if he is not happy living with me, we will see if we can do something about it like take help (counseling) or something because we both are still very young. We want to be able to spend the rest of our lives togetehr happily. I made it very clear to him that I do not want this silent treatments and its better if he clears anything that is bothering him then and there.

He didnt respond. he is still not talking to me but I think he will come around.

You're very diplomatic! And you sound fairly westernized (more than he does) and sensible. I hope you can work this out. He's lucky to have you!