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Since I decided to break out of my shell in 2012 and start being less socially repressed and introverted, I've gone on my fair share of dates and have had friends-with-benefits here and there......but I've never had a serious, monogamous relationship with anyone yet. Now that all of my friends are always out with their BF/GF or bring them along when we hang out, I find it's starting to bother and depress me and leaves me feeling lonely. Sex is also get "weird" for me, as I want it but can't see myself enjoying it someone that just sees me as a friend with benefits, not a lover. Really frustrating.
I have no problems making new friends (especially platonic ones, it seems), but when it comes to expressing interest/desire in someone I find attractive...I don't really know how to do so without a serious amount of apprehension and anxiety. I usually think I'm being rude, imposing or a creeper if I want to tell someone I like them and find them attractive. Sometimes I think I'm doing it too soon, have waited too long or should even bother at all.
I don't know why I do this, as I seem to bond with people and form solid friendships without any problems or friction. I'm a generally likeable person and I'm always told by friends I'm attractive, funny and a pleasure to be around so I know I have that going for me....I'm just unsure of what else is missing here, maybe just initiative/confidence.
Also, if it matters, Fun Fact: I did not start dating or having sex until I was 25, two years ago.
Just remember that a lot of people are in the same boat! You aren't alone. If they think it's a deal breaker, that's their loss.
I'm 25 and I have never been in a serious relationship either. I've been on dates here and there, it's just nothing has turned into anything serious. I'm really just trying to focus on fulfilling my goals (not work, but personal) and being happy with myself. I think a good, healthy relationship should be icing on the cake
I like to think that everyone has a different timeline. You shouldn't compare yourself to other people, because you will meet someone when the time is right (at least that is what I tell myself to feel better, haha)
You're fine. You do have some experience. But it's not a big deal unless you make it. Like acting insecure about it, or coming off as trying to showboat to make up for it.
Just be confident, and seem like a nice and fun guy who has his head on straight and his act together. Not having a serious relationship before 25 isn't a crisis. lol
You had some FWB. Just don't come off like a player-someone that uses and dumps women.
Otherwise, you should be totally fine. You may just have to be more eager in your search. Like asking out more. Go to the mall. Lots of women in a place like that. If you see a girl that looks nice, chat her up a bit. Go places where many women will be, and you can just try your luck and talk to some.
I've actually met someone who hasn't started dating until in his 30s. Hopefully the "date market" doesn't work the same way as the job market in terms of being "out of work".
Unless you're one of those people who gets dates all the time, then this sort of thing will always be unnatural. You really need to get out of your comfort zone and just ask them out. Hell, I still have problems with this.
I think your fine. It's not like you are hiding in your parents basement and never spoken to a woman before. Being 27, having dated, etc, but not having had a long term relationship is not anything to worry about.
Don't stress it. Just start to work on building a more meaningful relationship with some of the women you date and find chemistry with, and maybe start staying away with FWB situations that are leaving you less than fulfilled.
You're not unusual, OP. Nothing wrong with not having had a relationship at the ripe old age of 27, lol! At that age, women are happy just to find a decent guy. There may be some who think you're lame, but who cares about them? The fact that you're now preferring sex that comes with a level of bonding speaks well in your behalf. There are women into that, for sure, and that trumps the fact that you're a relationship newbie. Cheer up. There are women out there for you.
Ideally, no. But then again, that depends on who you ask.
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