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From his point of view, it is only going to torture him to be around someone who he feels strongly about that had made clear that person don't feel the same way. In that situation he is far better off cutting his losses so he does not waste time with someone who cannot return those feelings.
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Originally Posted by srjth
I think it's perfectly find for a man (or woman) to never speak to someone again after they've rejected them.
Some people just aren't interested in friendship with that person and that is okay.
I'm not disagreeing with either of these sentiments. I am just saying don't let it bring you down thinking someone "dislikes" you when it may just be something random like they have a sexual fetish you don't fit (in other words, don't blame yourself). I see too many men think disinterest = dislike and the later has some self esteem damaging connotations.
Meh, maybe I read too much into the "they don't like me" thought. I've been known to over think things
I'm not disagreeing with either of these sentiments. I am just saying don't let it bring you down thinking someone "dislikes" you when it may just be something random like they have a sexual fetish you don't fit (in other words, don't blame yourself). I see too many men think disinterest = dislike and the later has some self esteem damaging connotations.
Meh, maybe I read too much into the "they don't like me" thought. I've been known to over think things
I think it's perfectly find for a man (or woman) to never speak to someone again after they've rejected them.
Some people just aren't interested in friendship with that person and that is okay.
It's not about friendship. If they're work colleagues or are on a soccer team with you, or something, then it would be unnecessarily awkward if the guy refused to speak to someone they interact with. It would come off as childish. Surely a mature adult can manage to be cordial, rather than ignoring or avoiding someone for months or years.
It's not about friendship. If they're work colleagues or are on a soccer team with you, or something, then it would be unnecessarily awkward if the guy refused to speak to someone they interact with. It would come off as childish. Surely a mature adult can manage to be cordial, rather than ignoring or avoiding someone for months or years.
Who cares if someone thinks it's childish lol. I personally don't care what others think of what I do. Their opinion doesn't matter.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
It's not about friendship. If they're work colleagues or are on a soccer team with you, or something, then it would be unnecessarily awkward if the guy refused to speak to someone they interact with. It would come off as childish. Surely a mature adult can manage to be cordial, rather than ignoring or avoiding someone for months or years.
It's a sure sign that the person that rejected the other dodged a bullet. If the person can't take the high road and be an adult in the face of a polite rejection, they're not a person of character.
From his point of view, it is only going to torture him to be around someone who he feels strongly about that had made clear that person don't feel the same way. In that situation he is far better off cutting his losses so he does not waste time with someone who cannot return those feelings.
I would rather have someone ignore me, than stalk me or not take no for an answer, and keep asking me over and over again until I changed my mind. If a person is turned down, and only wants a romantic relationship with that person, it would absolutely be in their best interest to totally ignore that person. Cause if they don't, then they will feel like they are in the dreaded friend zone, and that would just make things worse.
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