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That's what I don't get either. I was always of the belief that having a child comes from being in love with a person and wanting to share that with someone else. These people (women do it too)basing a relationship on children is just sick to me. I wouldn't dump someone just because they were sterile but obviously many would.
But are they childless men? I find dads repulsive and yes I stated that in my profile though not that harsh. I was rude to men with kids because my profile stated no dads. I had childless men with careers contact me but most were either looking for sex or didn't have good jobs (like retail, fast food etc).
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But she's apparently 43, fit, thin and beautiful and her BF is a 50-something, overweight, alcoholic, quasi-employed, virgin living at home with his mama, so no need for OLD.
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It's not being judgmental, it's being realistic. These men should have stayed or gotten married. It's not my fault they didn't do that so why should I give them the time of day? I'm childless and never married, I deserve the same in a mate. If older childless women don't feel the same, it's not my business they settle. Who said I am suffering? I have a boyfriend, one with morals who feels even stronger about this.
IDDY, you appear to be a very negative and bitter person. We've had this discussion multiple times that you need to put away the self-important attitude and derision. I fail to see what you have that makes you more special than others.
Oh really? how would you know they have more options than me? A middle aged man can not expect anything but a middle aged woman, especially if he's average. If he's overweight or underemployed? He has less options than a middle aged woman in shape. Actually I see more men complaining about quality woman than the opposite.
And yet, here you are, complaining. You're obviously upset over the discrepency in options and looking to justify it by arguing that it doesn't exist.
IDDY, you appear to be a very negative and bitter person. We've had this discussion multiple times that you need to put away the self-important attitude and derision. I fail to see what you have that makes you more special than others.
I never said I am more special. However I do deserve a childless man (which I have)because I am childless. I never made that mistake so why should I have to pay for someone else's mistake?
And yet, here you are, complaining. You're obviously upset over the discrepency in options and looking to justify it by arguing that it doesn't exist.
I'm not complaining, I am stating my experience on dating sites. I found someone but these men looking for younger are still on dating sites so who really has more options?
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I'm not complaining, I am stating my experience on dating sites. I found someone but these men looking for younger are still on dating sites so who really has more options?
The Energizer Bunny types, who dont discriminate in partner that much, have the most options.
Anything of quality looking for commitment is going to be far and few between. Anything of quality that meets all of your specifications, while you simultaniously meet all of their specifications is a rare gem indeed.
There are less rare jewels, that come with some baggage, that may settle for you, if you can find a way to settle for them.
Dont expect a hunt for any jewel to be as easy as simply joining a dating site. You have to kiss plenty of frogs sometimes, before you meet a prince/princess.
The Energizer Bunny types, who dont discriminate in partner that much, have the most options.
Anything of quality looking for commitment is going to be far and few between. Anything of quality that meets all of your specifications, while you simultaniously meet all of their specifications is a rare gem indeed.
There are less rare jewels, that come with some baggage, that may settle for you, if you can find a way to settle for them.
Dont expect a hunt for any jewel to be as easy as simply joining a dating site. You have to kiss plenty of frogs sometimes, before you meet a prince/princess.
One shouldn't settle if it's important and morals to me are important. There's no way I would have settle for some of the men out there, like dads. They would be coming into any relationship with baggage.
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One shouldn't settle if it's important and morals to me are important. There's no way I would have settle for some of the men out there, like dads. They would be coming into any relationship with baggage.
I totally understand. No one dating by any means - and especially not from a website - is going to have all that many options for prefect alignment with another person.
Your profile is basicly your sales advertizement, and just like when applying for a job, most people are going to play themselves up in one. Thats natural.
I think meeting someone in your everyday real life is the best way to meet someone. You at least get to observe them for a bit before desiding whether to approach. Also, if you simply have to do blind dates, they are best arranged by someone in your peer group. Chances are someone in your peer group shares or borders on your interests, and will know other people that feel the same way.
You simply cant learn all that much without a real life connection anyway.
I'm not complaining, I am stating my experience on dating sites. I found someone but these men looking for younger are still on dating sites so who really has more options?
Sounds the same to me. These men could likely find women their own age, but don't want women their own age. You could find men NOT your own age, but you don't want that either.
I totally understand. No one dating by any means - and especially not from a website - is going to have all that many options for prefect alignment with another person.
Your profile is basicly your sales advertizement, and just like when applying for a job, most people are going to play themselves up in one. Thats natural.
I think meeting someone in your everyday real life is the best way to meet someone. You at least get to observe them for a bit before desiding whether to approach. Also, if you simply have to do blind dates, they are best arranged by someone in your peer group. Chances are someone in your peer group shares or borders on your interests, and will know other people that feel the same way.
You simply cant learn all that much without a real life connection anyway.
I met my boyfriend offline and we were friends for months before dating. It worked for me.
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Sounds the same to me. These men could likely find women their own age, but don't want women their own age. You could find men NOT your own age, but you don't want that either.
Then if they have success with women younger than them why are they on dating sites for years? Because no one wants them. I find lots of men my age, younger, and older who all want to date me because I'm pretty but if they were something they would have the same success. They don't and are missing out. So who has more options, me or them? Considering I have a boyfriend I met offline and they are still on dating sites I guess that means I have more options.
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