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a) had no job
b) was in prison
c) smoked pot
d) drank a lot
e) didn't get a college education
f) had no car
etc.? Not all of these at once, of course, but you have NO dealbreakers whatsoever? Judgement exists for a reason. The people you let into your life should have to meet your standards. If they don't meet those standards, then they do not have to be in your life.
I know people who have no traditional job, and still make plenty of money.
I also know plenty of people who were in prison (one was innocent, and oddly, he was the only one with tattoos)
As for pot smokers, if they have a job, or a stable life who am I to judge?
Drank a lot? Depends on what 'a lot' is. My grandfather is an alcoholic, but he's still a good man.
My boyfriend didn't get a college education and he's one of the smartest men I know.
No car? Who cares? A lot of people get around by public transit or bicycle, it's healthier!
So no, I have no dealbreakers in my life. I've met a lot of very odd, very interesting, and very boring people throughout my life so far and I wouldn't change that for anything. I think you'd be surprised at what you'll find out by simply looking past the outer person. I met a REALLY goth looking guy once (black and purple hair, tight leather pants, TONS of tattoos/piercings etc.) and found out later he started his own company at the age of 14 and was now a multimillionaire who happened to own his own plane, which is how we met.
If I had judged him based on his looks, I never would have met such a wonderful person.
I don't believe I have complaints with any of those, except maybe smoking pot, or drinking, personally. My point is that people have all sorts of "deal breakers" that they judge people on. It could be their political viewpoint, it could be their weight, or height, or any multitude of things. And that's okay. Every person has a right to judge what people might not be right for them.
Tattoos and piercings are my dealbreakers.
Any deal breaker someone has, there will be someone upset that they didn't meet the standard.
You make good points, however I would never say anything to anyone in a prejudice way as your last point mentions.
As a more conservative person than maybe you are or others voicing their opinions, no one will convince me otherwise that tattoos, body art, excessive piercings, green and orange hair is a sign of at least one of the things I mentioned in my first post. However, that is not to say I do not have faults because I do not have any tattoos.
You are asking me, almost telling me not to judge people by their looks. Is that not forcing your opinion and views onto me? Did you think about that angle? Why is so important to YOU how others view you? So maybe there is something deeper here than you would admit?
I would never ask anyone to remove their tattoos or piercings, or suggest not to do as they wish with their own bodies, or anything otherwise to anyone.
Well to each their own! That's what makes the place great!
I don't mean to sound as I am "forcing" my opinion or view on anyone,that's why I said please. I am merely stating my opinions and making suggestions.
I have grown up being judged. I know how painfull judgements can be. At one point in my life it was VERY important how people viewed me, what they thought, what they said, what they were whispering, however, at this age, it no longer matters! At this age, I know better!!
I spent over 5 years planning my first tattoo. It's been 3 years since I was last under the needle because I've spent that time researching artists. I've finally found an artist and a studio I like and now the cleanliness/attitude portion of my tests begin.
Trust me... being impulsive is not one of my personality traits. The vast majority of my tattooed friends are the same way...why be impulsive about something that is going to be with you for life?
Yep, I was just going to post this.
Most of my tattooed friends, and I spent months, even years desiding, designing, and finding the perfect tattoo artist for their/my tattoos...
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Yep, I was just going to post this.
Most of my tattooed friends, and I spent months, even years desiding, designing, and finding the perfect tattoo artist for their/my tattoos...
Also agree with this, The design i created, which will go across my shoulders has been in constant flux for the past 5 years..until it finally came out exactly as i want it..because of the meaning behind it..
Well to each their own! That's what makes the place great!
I don't mean to sound as I am "forcing" my opinion or view on anyone,that's why I said please. I am merely stating my opinions and making suggestions.
I have grown up being judged. I know how painfull judgements can be. At one point in my life it was VERY important how people viewed me, what they thought, what they said, what they were whispering, however, at this age, it no longer matters! At this age, I know better!!
Oohh I love this one. You know better! Better than I, or anyone else. Because You know I grew up in Mass, so I know liberals when I see them - you certainly are the Mass liberal type to a T! Did I just make a prejudice statement there?
Oohh I love this one. You know better! Better than I, or anyone else. Because You know I grew up in Mass, so I know liberals when I see them - you certainly are the Mass liberal type to a T! Did I just make a prejudice statement there?
AHHH reading MORE into what I write are we???? When I wrote "At this age I know better" I mean "I" know better then the "I" of a younger age! You see it has nothing to do with "you" or "anyone else"
Mass liberal type?
Feel free to get some great big ones. And post pics!
you first !
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