My GF still cares for her Ex. (girl, seeking, alcohol)
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i think it would be wise for some of the posters here unable to let go to understand the three core reasons humans interact and apply it to your lives, situations and circumstances
be honest with yourselves and stop playing head games to cover the real issues
Last edited by rego00123; 10-10-2014 at 02:22 PM..
Either forgive her and work on getting back to a good point in your relationship or leave her. I'm starting to feel sorry for this woman. I would not be willing to demean myself and agree to a FWB situation so you could continue to have sex with me with no commitment while I have to get down on my knees everyday and grovel for your forgiveness. What she did was wrong, but geez.
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OP denies it, but he's punishing her.
I would be long gone. This is not how to rebuild a relationship.
OP denies it, but he's punishing her.
I would be long gone. This is not how to rebuild a relationship.
If I were Nancy, I would cut my losses and leave, not because I'm guilty or not guilty, it's because OP is petty and punitive. That's a not good foundation for a long term relationship.
OP, it's done and over with and she's apologized, just get over it already. She doesn't deserve shaming or punishment and she shouldn't have act like she's on probation and reprove herself to you, just get the heck over it.
That is good. I am glad that things work out for you.
I believe the bolded. MOST divorced people can have a working relationship if there are kids involved, but I highly doubt most divorced folks still have feelings for each other. Wait and see attitude is good and I am sure you have a good woman there. Love is hard to come by, don't obsessee over the small stuff.
The visual you gave us has been incredible. A sexy lady with a backless gown. Woohoo, That sounds very very NICE!
I wish you some good luck and all the best things in life.
Either forgive her and work on getting back to a good point in your relationship or leave her. I'm starting to feel sorry for this woman. I would not be willing to demean myself and agree to a FWB situation so you could continue to have sex with me with no commitment while I have to get down on my knees everyday and grovel for your forgiveness. What she did was wrong, but geez.
Why should I commit, if I'm not sure of her,? and nobody ever said that she had to "grovel", did they? This is your own dramatic projection, not mine. Considering her behavior, I think I have been very reasonable. If she feels that she is "groveling", all she has to do is say so, and we can end it. I certainly am not cracking some kind of whip over her, but trying to protect my feelings and make sure that I'm #1 on the hit parade. Which, considering her actions at the wedding, I feel that I have a right to do so. The FWB idea was one in which we can slow down the relationship , yet still enjoy each others company, including sex, which we BOTH like very much. Then, when all of this is sorted out, we can either end it mutually or move on, together.
If I were Nancy, I would cut my losses and leave, not because I'm guilty or not guilty, it's because OP is petty and punitive. That's a not good foundation for a long term relationship.
In what way am I "punishing " her? By insisting that I know what happened and why? By insisting that I will not be "plan B"? By protecting my feelings?
You people who think I'm "punishing " her are projecting your own interpretation and motives on me, which are simply not true. Every action that I have asked of her are actions I would be willing to take if asked BY her, if I had done what she did.
BTW, she thinks I'm doing OK, and her opinion is the only one that matters.
OP, it's done and over with and she's apologized, just get over it already. She doesn't deserve shaming or punishment and she shouldn't have act like she's on probation and reprove herself to you, just get the heck over it.
I have never shamed her or asked her to grovel or beg like some of the more dramatic posters have insinuated. WE will decide about our relationship , when I am satisfied that I know the whole story about this incident and have all the info that I can get. I owe it to BOTH of us, to do this right.
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