No longer interested in casual sex (dating, girl, kiss, 2014)
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Never have any free time when you're alone, the house is clean, all your friends are out of town, and you just don't have anything to do?
No, there is a time and place for every adventure.
Sure I have all those, but nope,, still not my thing. I have hobbies I can engage, new stuff I would like to try, plus other more important things to focus on now anyhow.
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Originally Posted by timberline742
You have to do what works for you, but a ONS or a vacation fling every now and then isn't going to get in the way of connecting for a fling with someone. You're going to bed that night anyway, doing it with someone else isn't going to change that.
Also, a large percentage of marriages come from ONS and flings that keep on going. Probably 75-80% of the weddings I've been to since my early 30s started as bar/party/whatever hook ups and kept on going. That is how I met my girlfriend, and that is probably the most common non OLD of relationship establishment.
Again, you have to do with what works for you, but it is a false dichotomy to say either a person is looking/having hookups or they're looking for a serious relationship (you aren't the only one saying that). Both can be going on simultaneously.
Ok, that can happen. But for me, I don't do flings while looking for a relationship. I don't build relationships around the sex. I believe the sex adds to it, but not makes up all of it. So, emotional connection 1st, tons of hot sex afterward-probably 2-3 times a day, but with an already exclusive partner, where the emotions, trust and investment, are there.
I never cared for casual sex. Seems pointless for me. I take sex pretty seriously, and I know if I just slept with someone just to sleep with them and get a quick rush, I wouldn't feel good about myself because I know how I am, and I know my own personal convictions.
Definitely don't have anything against those who do enjoy it, though.
Especially since I have to be emotionally attached to the guy in order to feel sexually attracted to him. In your case it could simply mean that you just don't find her attractive, or maybe you want something meaningful. Nothing to over think.
I never cared for casual sex. Seems pointless for me. I take sex pretty seriously, and I know if I just slept with someone just to sleep with them and get a quick rush, I wouldn't feel good about myself because I know how I am, and I know my own personal convictions.
Definitely don't have anything against those who do enjoy it, though.
Especially since I have to be emotionally attached to the guy in order to feel sexually attracted to him. In your case it could simply mean that you just don't find her attractive, or maybe you want something meaningful. Nothing to over think.
Yea, the last time I hit it and quit it, it wasn't that fulfilling to me. Thanks for the advice.
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Ok, that can happen. But for me, I don't do flings while looking for a relationship. I don't build relationships around the sex. I believe the sex adds to it, but not makes up all of it. So, emotional connection 1st, tons of hot sex afterward-probably 2-3 times a day, but with an already exclusive partner, where the emotions, trust and investment, are there.
Sure I have all those, but nope,, still not my thing. I have hobbies I can engage, new stuff I would like to try, plus other more important things to focus on now anyhow.
Ok, that can happen. But for me, I don't do flings while looking for a relationship. I don't build relationships around the sex. I believe the sex adds to it, but not makes up all of it. So, emotional connection 1st, tons of hot sex afterward-probably 2-3 times a day, but with an already exclusive partner, where the emotions, trust and investment, are there.
How do you know? Aren't you the one who has never been on a date yet?
Not trying to be snarky, but you haven't had any relationships at all, so how do you know?
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How do you know? Aren't you the one who has never been on a date yet?
Not trying to be snarky, but you haven't had any relationships at all, so how do you know?
That can't be. If she knows what works for her, surely she must have experienced a bunch of different things and found that works for her. Otherwise it is just a fairy tale, and like all fairy tales, the world doesn't work the way we wish it to; heck, we don't work the way we wish to most of the time!
I hope you have her just confused with another poster.
I'll take what I can get. I even wake up licking my pillow and dreaming.....
How casual is casual?
Today on the way home from work I got pretty horny and aroused. Every time I try to lay low and stay away from women, my loins come calling. I have super high testosterone levels because I keep myself buff and in very very good shape.
If there was somebody to call or someone waiting for me when I got home, I would have had to wear sweatpants to work tomorrow if you catch my drift!!
Meow...meow!!
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, but with an already exclusive partner, where the emotions, trust and investment, are there.
