I'll try to keep it short and simple as best as I can.
I became friends with a group of people who I knew through other friends. One of these people was a girl who seemed to show interest in me from day one. She was taken, but over the few times we hung out over the summer I noticed things about her that gave me signs she was into me. nothing inappropriate happened, but the last time I noticed a girl acting the way she did, she ended up wanting to hook up with me. So I was fairly confident that I could get this girl if she was single.
Well...fast forward a few months. She apparently broke up with her boyfriend. Not only that, but she moved to a town where my brother goes to school 30 minutes away. I decided to hit her up on facebook. The jist of the convo consist of me hearing where she moved too and we should chill.
She replied with "most definetley! heres my number and hit me up when youre here
". She also told me to let her know if i know anyone with weed around her area. i dont smoke weed, but i knew where to get it there. Overall I was feeling pretty good about this. I was gonna come through, chill with my brother, invite her to chill and we could hang out. It seemed like it was falling into my lap perfectly.
Well I get to town around 7 pm and text her "yooooo its brad, whatcha doin?" she replies "might be napping cuz i have work at 12. haha dont judge!". I was a little disappointed to hear that, but i let her know my brother and his friends got a lot of weed a little while ago and if she needed any to lemme know. She said yeah and asked if she could see me before work. I agreed.
I went outside of my brothers place to meet her. We hugged, she asked me how I was doing etc etc. She said she works at the restaurant right in front of my bros place, and mentioned that i should stop through tonight if were not busy and said we definetly need to chill next time.
We ended up getting really trashed, and I felt like id come off as too...pushy...to just come to her restaurant. So we ended up going to the bars for a bit and going back to the house. She texted me at 4am saying thanks for helping her out. I said np im glad you can get high! and she replied "yepp gonna get stoned haha".
I passed out 15 minutes later. I woke up around 11 am and asked if she wanted to get something to eat. And I have yet to get a response. Seeing its been all day i doubt i will. And that moment is what disappointed me. I put myself out there, I was incredibly confident in the situation, more than ive been in many, and it was like...I was completely delusional. All the other times we saw each other seemed more...special. Like I could really feel a connection. But it didnt feel that way this time. I was completly curved by someone who i thought was at least a good friend.
I'm can list all the possible factors that could have caused this. I can list all the reasons as to why she didnt respond to me or things felt so cold. This was our first one on one interaction in all honesty. I mean...we have had one on one interaction, but it was always within group activities like music festivals. And although she gave me her number and said she was down to chill...the vibe didnt feel so welcoming when I was there. And I thought we were at least good enough friends for her to provide a response of some kind.
I guess when it comes down to it, I came on too strong, and clearly was more into her than she was me. I clearly miss read signs and actions that lead me to believe she had an attraction to me. I know this happens to everyone, but I really dislike dealing with this. Making myself vulnerable in this sense and being rejected is still an incredibly tough pill for me to swallow...I am trying not to dwell on this but it has put a damper on my mood...
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