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Originally Posted by Chloe_inMD
Why do many guys get upset when women judge them based on their income? Don't most guys judge women based on her looks/physical beauty?
Seems a bit hypocritical to me...
Some guys get upset when women judge them based on income. Sometimes these are guys that dont meet her mark; or, guys that are romantics, and dont feel money provides a good foundation for a meaningful relationship.
Physical attraction is a primary almost involuntary function we all undergo. There are also the very few who have socio-economic reasons for nice arm candy. It goes along with being rich and powerful. Rich and powerful people have nice arm candy. They probably go into that sort of arrangement knowing it comes at a price.
Prehistoricly, females look for good providers. Many also want other things, like love and trust, and stuff like that. People seek out what they find attractive. But, what they require might not have anything love and trust wise to offer; or, someone loses sight of the fact that their relationship is little more than a contractual agreement.
It is what it is. It takes two to succeed at hyprocrisy. *shrugs*
Personally, I strive in my daily life not to be a hypocrite. That's why I'm pretty moderate in my opinions on things. I find that when you're too far to one extreme, it's easy to find yourself trapped in your own thinking.
When I decided to make a concerted effort to date, I started focusing on my weight. I couldn't expect the women that I'd want to be skinny and fit while I was looking all husky and sluggish. I put on a good 20 lbs. over the course of two years due to a stressful work experience. So early on this year I made a commitment to hit the gym. I'm proud to say that I'm down 20 lbs and plan on losing another 5-10. At 5'10", 170 lbs., I'm feeling great and I think I look a whole lot better (not to mention approachable).
Really? That may be the OP''s requirement but it has never been mine. My husband made much less money than I did but I really didn't care. I was attracted to him because of his looks. Would you find him handsome probably not but to me his smile lit up the room. I know plenty of men who make more money than women and if you are thinking they are gong to open the wallet for their girlfriend you are really mistaken.
There is a saying 'Beauty is in the mind of the beholder'. You might find him/her attractive but that doesn't he/she will find you attractive.
Really? That may be the OP''s requirement but it has never been mine. My husband made much less money than I did but I really didn't care. I was attracted to him because of his looks. Would you find him handsome probably not but to me his smile lit up the room. I know plenty of men who make more money than women and if you are thinking they are gong to open the wallet for their girlfriend you are really mistaken.
There is a saying 'Beauty is in the mind of the beholder'. You might find him/her attractive but that doesn't he/she will find you attractive.
I always heard it was "Beauty is in the eye of the beerholder".
Why is it that we can say we like intelligences and it gets listed a must have trait in a spouse but if you say you must be good looking or beautiful, that is frowned on.
Looks and intelligence can't really be controlled, you can work with what you have enhancing them a bit, but at the end of the day you're either smart or not so smart, same goes with looks.
A bit of hypocrisy on that one if you think about it.
Straw man argument. No one here has argued that income shouldn't be a factor. It should be, from a practical standpoint. What's shallow is when a guy makes a decent living and is responsible, but is still considered not good enough.
Women like men that they are attracted to.He may be ugly to the rest of the world but to her he is gorgeous.
And men yes women like decent amount of money that you make.Life is exspendsive, but I do agree women should make their way too.Men you don't want a broke lady? Why do you think we want one?
I would never want the stereotypical type of woman that would want me for my money, but at the same time I've never considered a woman's income or job when deciding whether I wanted to date her or not.
Why do many guys get upset when women judge them based on their income? Don't most guys judge women based on her looks/physical beauty?
Seems a bit hypocritical to me...
Yes, most people are hypocrites. We notice other people's bad behavior but we don't notice that very same behavior in ourselves. The CD forums are chock full of this kind of thing....people criticizing "the other" person who they perceive as different from themselves in some way (race, financial status, sexual orientation, political ideology), yet they do the same things and have the same attitudes as the person they criticize but don't see it. We're all guilty of hypocrisy to some degree. The only people who aren't hypocrites are those with no standards.
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