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uh, dude..... I can see why they didn't answer. You need a better pic. You look like you were photo'd at the gym all sweaty after a workout. Give 'em a photo of you looking like you're about to meet 'em for a date, looking sharp. Try a smile. And keep in mind that all dating sites have a lot of dead accounts.
I took a look at the picture too. Yeah, you need a new one. I think NewbiePoster is right... try to make the picture one where you look sharp, like you are going out on a date. I read an just last night when I was responding to another poster it's what works and doesn't work in OLD photos for men (and women). The results were from the dating site, Zoosk. Big take aways for men, take a picture outside and try to avoid selfies. Also, include a full body shot.
What? You have problems finding people with whom to be in a relationship, yet you don't suffer from psychological issues? All the people on here accusing others of having mental illness just because relationships aren't working out for them need to read this post!
Maybe I'm crazy but just don't know it lol. Seriously though you don't build and run a successful service oriented business if you have terrible people skills. I do know that having good people skills doesn't mean you have good dating skills though.
I tried OLD after already having success else ware. I quickly stopped using it because it was making me jaded. I've found that I succeed in strange scenarios ie: I am good at emailing but texting is like slaughter. I wish I could admin an OLD site so I could see what was really going on lol.
Maybe I'm crazy but just don't know it lol. Seriously though you don't build and run a successful service oriented business if you have terrible people skills. I do know that having good people skills doesn't mean you have good dating skills though.
You are not crazy. It might really just be your location. Just because others have found someone there, that doesn't mean that everyone will. Sometimes we make to light of where someone might live. As if some gorgeous beautiful baby is going to wander by that you have never seen before and fall in your lap. Having said that, people do move to new towns all the time and that's why I mentioned going to the bar. You will never know who moves to your town if you aren't out. You can't always go by the past when considering what will be of the future. Anything is possible.
People used to migrate for jobs, who knows maybe relocating for dating will be the next thing. I can see some remote places where people almost have to.
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I wonder if the OP's non-participation in the bar scene might be a deterrent with the local women there. You'd think that would be a plus, and I know women for whom it definitely is a plus. But I don't know what the scene is like in Montana. Undoubtedly you're narrowing your demographic with that preference. I'm not saying don't state that upfront, I'm saying you have to accept the fact that you're narrowing your appeal.
That doesn't address the concern in your OP, about women not even opening your messages. Aside from the dead accounts, maybe the women check the messenger's photo before opening the message? But you've only just begun, right? Make some adjustments per the recommendations people here have given you, and try again.
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I wonder if the OP's non-participation in the bar scene might be a deterrent with the local women there. You'd think that would be a plus,
Oh man, not for me. Don't drink, can't dance, not looking for casual sex. That pretty much destroys all the reasons people go to bars, lol.
I did go to all the LGBT bars and many mainstream bars in the area once because I was looking for a venue to watch The L Word with people in a meetup group. Turns out that bars don't usually get that channel (showtime), and you couldn't hear the TV if they did. You can rent a private booth in some places (like Fahrenheit Lounge in San Jose), but that costs money and then I'd have to charge.
Look at your 3rd message. Look at several of your messages. I can't read the whole things, but some start out ridiculously terrible alone. No wonder you aren't getting responses.. Wow.. Please don't point any fingers for the issue here.
Oh man, not for me. Don't drink, can't dance, not looking for casual sex. That pretty much destroys all the reasons people go to bars, lol.
My point, exactly. The kind of women the OP is looking for are more likely to be found in places like the Bay Area, Portland, Seattle. Still, there must be some in his town and around the county, or within driving distance. And "driving distance" in a place like Montana is probably defined much more loosely than it is in urban areas. Still, the no bar-scene thing alone puts him a little outside the mainstream. And truth be told, being part Asian also puts him outside the mainstream. Sorry, man, I gotta call it like it is. You look like you'd have women all over you if you were in the Bay Area. Montana? Tricky. The population isn't known for its cosmopolitanism.
Have you tried attending events in the Native American communities there? They have annual and seasonal events that are open to the public. Or maybe you could figure out a tribal angle for your businesses.
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