After three years..I need advice please! (married, women, cheat)
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It is very hard knowing this. Also, sometimes he initiates sex because I do turn him on. I know that this is my choice, I just like knowing other peoples thoughts. I love him and the love we share is deeper than sex and looks. He says so too. I just get nervous about that 15% chance he may leave in the future. I also feel bad for him that he doesn't find me attractive. I think he deserves to be with a woman he finds attractive 100%. At the same time, I make him very very happy. Nothing is ever certain though, but still...I am conflicted.
WHAT? Men can be losers but that type of a loser oh boy. You spend 3 years ? and you still want him? Love is not the only thing to carry a relationship. Think about it very good. I don't see no happy future. I rather have a man who accept me as I am and who love me than the appearance.
I don't know where my comment just went, but to answer the question: I know it's my choice. He does initiate sex sometimes and sometimes we are very kinky. I just feel bad because I think he deserves to be with someone who he finds attractive. Again, he doesn;t think I'm ugly, he thinks I'm a 3 on a scale of 1-5. So I don't make him horny by just my looks. I feel bad, but at the same time, I make him very happy and the love we share is deeper than sex and looks..I know it's up to me, but I like hearing others thoughts too.
I just feel bad because I think he deserves to be with someone who he finds attractive. Again, he doesn;t think I'm ugly, he thinks I'm a 3 on a scale of 1-5. .
Poor guy, he is being forced to be with someone he doesn't find attractive. And he has to have sex with her? I feel bad for him. He deserves better. I hope she at least makes sure to do whatever he wants in the bedroom to make him happy.
My boyfriend ans I have been together for almost three years. I am a very strong and independent woman and he is a sweet and sensitive soul. We are so darn cute together and have so much fun when we are with each other. We cuddle and kiss and all that sweet stuff. He loves me very much and is always there for me and I am always there for him. I love him as well. Today I found out that he does not find me attractive. He says it has been this way for almost our whole relationship. He says he loves me and thinks I am the most amazing woman he has ever known. He said sometimes I can be cute or pretty to him, but overall, I'm just average ok looking and that does not make him horny or anything so usually he just masturbates instead of having sex with me. Sometimes we have sex..sometimes. This is really hard for me and it hurts. He said he wants to make it work, but I am scared that down the line he will leave me since he doesn't find me attractive. He said it's like a 15% chance it will happen and I am happy he is being honest with me. We both cried because we don't want to separate, but that 15% chance. Also, we deserve to be with people that find us attractive and that we find attractive right? Looks aren't everything though and he does enjoy having sex with me. I know he's being honest and he doesn't want to hurt me. He said he will go with whatever decision I make and that he just wants me to be happy..the ball is in my court. Do I leave or stay? Love is stronger than attractiveness right?
Never marry or stay with a man who does not think you are the most attractive woman in his life. Never.
Why the what? I don't know if you're implying that I should be mad at him, but he did nothing wrong.
He doesn't think you're ugly. That's nice.
Like others have stated already: A woman should never be in a relationship with a man who doesn't find her attractive. YOU deserve a man who is attracted to you!
In a relationship, attraction is as important as love. In the long run, that will affect your relationship. Sometimes it just doesn't work
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