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Met this guy in the spring of this year online. His profile said he was single and looking for marriage, which I soon found to be a lie. We met in person and talked over the phone and texted several times then he disappeared, just stopped responding to my messages and his phone always went to voicemail. He reappeared a while later saying he was sooo busy with work and disappeared again so by this time I kinda told him off and told him to leave me the hell alone if he was going to keep disappearing. When I did he let on that someone was living with him and he was "supporting" her because she has no job and he said they argued a lot, he didn't trust her, her kids were disrespectful to him in his house, his son and live in uncle didn't like her, etc. and he wanted to be done with her.
Well the day after Thanksgiving he calls me pissed at her that she was talking to him rudely in his house and asked me what he should do? I'm like I can't tell u that is your decision but no on should make u uncomfortable in your own house. so an hour later he calls back and said the police came and escorted her away. so he said he wanted to spend time with me and we did. During this time he told me the book was closed with her.
after we met earlier this year and talked I really liked his personality, he was funny, and nice so I agreed to spend time with him and I felt drawn to him more. I was on my way to visit him sunday and he calls and says its not a good idea. He appeared very upset as he said he had feelings for me and didn't know what to do. I was devastated and asked what was going on and after a while he said he was still in love with her and she was moving back in.
I feel really bad like I have been slapped in the face and used, but i should not feel this way. I feel his relationship is toxic and he didn't trust her from the get go. She's jobless but he may have made her quit because he didnt trust her, i'm not sure. i also think he is toxic maybe a bit controlling, he would ask me about my guy friends and who i talk to on a regular basis which i've never had a guy to do. He wanted to stay in touch but right now I have him blocked. Its hard because I really liked this guy. AND he still is active in his online profile...if he is so in love why would he be online using a paid site saying he is looking for marriage??? Also when i visited him there was another woman STALKING him driving by and calling repeatedly. . He also uses prepaid phones i assume because his live in gf checks his main cell phone. Is this a serial cheater!??? feel like i did the right thing blocking him but i feel hurt for some reason. Please give some advice on this. Do controlling cheaters change? If hes so in love why does he do this?
Why waste any more time trying to analyze his behavior? You should instead focus on learning to read the extremely obvious indications that were there from the start that this guy is not relationship material. Then next time, you won't let yourself get caught up in this kind of drama with an unavailable man.
Why would you maintain any communication with this guy! Sounds like he is treating you poorly and with little respect, as well as the other woman in his life (whatever their relationship is).
Cheater or not, he doesn't sound like anyone worth trying to be in a relationship (or even friendship) with.
It hurts because you allowed yourself to be vulnerable, and he took advantage. This guy is BAD NEWS. Fortunately you have not traveled too far down the road with him.
It hurts because you allowed yourself to be vulnerable, and he took advantage. This guy is BAD NEWS. Fortunately you have not traveled too far down the road with him.
Delete, block, move on.
I understand about the flags and thats probably why i feel so bad but he was a persistent jerk. He would call from different numbers after i'd tell him to stop but for sine reason that day after thanksgiving i just fell for it and i keep thinking he used me and now he's going to be this better/changed man for her.
I understand about the flags and thats probably why i feel so bad but he was a persistent jerk. He would call from different numbers after i'd tell him to stop but for sine reason that day after thanksgiving i just fell for it and i keep thinking he used me and now he's going to be this better/changed man for her.
Who cares you don't need him.Dump him and find someone who repects you.That's a player and you don't want to be the sucker.
I understand about the flags and thats probably why i feel so bad but he was a persistent jerk. He would call from different numbers after i'd tell him to stop but for sine reason that day after thanksgiving i just fell for it and i keep thinking he used me and now he's going to be this better/changed man for her.
This sounds like a case where you pack up your hurt in a bag, and walk away with it. It sucks for you, but if you continue with this I fear you will ultimately need several large bags and a carry-on.
I know it really is but i just keep thinking of all the lies! He's so in love but on a pay dating site just lying! He even said he felt he needs to stay with her because he has "equity" in her! Wth!? Equity in only a year, that doesnt stop people who have been married for hundreds of years from divorcing! I don't know i guess i just needed to hear it from u guys thats why i posted.
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Sounds like he is treating you poorly and with little respect, as well as the other woman in his life (whatever their relationship is). 
