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No need to waste your time on him I think that is his wife. But this is a little bit what my ex said about me to his secret lovers who met online and every where.
1. I am his aunt and he look after his niece so his aunt let him to stay for free. Who is niece his own daughter
2. I am hiring a room because he has a big house.
3. I am his cousin sister who become a widow recently and going to a counselor because she deeply mentally down.
No need to waste your time on him I think that is his wife. But this is a little bit what my ex said about me to his secret lovers who met online and every where.
1. I am his aunt and he look after his niece so his aunt let him to stay for free. Who is niece his own daughter
2. I am hiring a room because he has a big house.
3. I am his cousin sister who become a widow recently and going to a counselor because she deeply mentally down.
Those are very few... so now you know.
I don't think it is i can't find a marriage record.
Wow those excuses u listed are crazy!!!
I know it really is but i just keep thinking of all the lies! He's so in love but on a pay dating site just lying! He even said he felt he needs to stay with her because he has "equity" in her! Wth!? Equity in only a year, that doesnt stop people who have been married for hundreds of years from divorcing! I don't know i guess i just needed to hear it from u guys thats why i posted.
His behavior screams of lying to manipulate. I am not sure I would trust everything he is telling you.
I am glad to see your not in communication any longer.
Met this guy in the spring of this year online. His profile said he was single and looking for marriage, which I soon found to be a lie. We met in person and talked over the phone and texted several times then he disappeared, just stopped responding to my messages and his phone always went to voicemail. He reappeared a while later saying he was sooo busy with work and disappeared again so by this time I kinda told him off and told him to leave me the hell alone if he was going to keep disappearing. When I did he let on that someone was living with him and he was "supporting" her because she has no job and he said they argued a lot, he didn't trust her, her kids were disrespectful to him in his house, his son and live in uncle didn't like her, etc. and he wanted to be done with her.
Well the day after Thanksgiving he calls me pissed at her that she was talking to him rudely in his house and asked me what he should do? I'm like I can't tell u that is your decision but no on should make u uncomfortable in your own house. so an hour later he calls back and said the police came and escorted her away. so he said he wanted to spend time with me and we did. During this time he told me the book was closed with her.
after we met earlier this year and talked I really liked his personality, he was funny, and nice so I agreed to spend time with him and I felt drawn to him more. I was on my way to visit him sunday and he calls and says its not a good idea. He appeared very upset as he said he had feelings for me and didn't know what to do. I was devastated and asked what was going on and after a while he said he was still in love with her and she was moving back in.
I feel really bad like I have been slapped in the face and used, but i should not feel this way. I feel his relationship is toxic and he didn't trust her from the get go. She's jobless but he may have made her quit because he didnt trust her, i'm not sure. i also think he is toxic maybe a bit controlling, he would ask me about my guy friends and who i talk to on a regular basis which i've never had a guy to do. He wanted to stay in touch but right now I have him blocked. Its hard because I really liked this guy. AND he still is active in his online profile...if he is so in love why would he be online using a paid site saying he is looking for marriage??? Also when i visited him there was another woman STALKING him driving by and calling repeatedly. . He also uses prepaid phones i assume because his live in gf checks his main cell phone. Is this a serial cheater!??? feel like i did the right thing blocking him but i feel hurt for some reason. Please give some advice on this. Do controlling cheaters change? If hes so in love why does he do this?
You met a guy online. He wasn't for you. Move on.
Next time, start out by meeting people face-to-face.
His behavior screams of lying to manipulate. I am not sure I would trust everything he is telling you.
I am glad to see your not in communication any longer.
It does! And i feel so sorry for his 12 year old son whos stays with him on weekends. God knows how many women he has seen in and out of his fathers room!
I understand about the flags and thats probably why i feel so bad but he was a persistent jerk. He would call from different numbers after i'd tell him to stop but for sine reason that day after thanksgiving i just fell for it and i keep thinking he used me and now he's going to be this better/changed man for her.
Not likely! People like this rarely change for the better, the mainly just re-adjust to fit the scenario. It's not hard to sweep a woman off her feet when she wants to believe in fairytales. A good sob story can easily make a sucker out of a Superwoman... Quit idealizing this man, he's a fantasy character playing different roles for different people. So he fooled you- not your fault, he's probably at expert level and could fool just about anyone. Once you know better, you do better. So consider yourself lucky you're not the fool at home who should know better by now that the man's a damn fool himself..
It does! And i feel so sorry for his 12 year old son whos stays with him on weekends. God knows how many women he has seen in and out of his fathers room!
not your problem.
Stop talking to that douche and find a better guy for you.
Is this a serial cheater!??? feel like i did the right thing blocking him but i feel hurt for some reason. Please give some advice on this. Do controlling cheaters change? If hes so in love why does he do this?
Well, let me try to relate to you on a deeper level and answer your questions.
Subconsciously, you are wondering why is this guy the way he is and if this guy can change. You are confused as to how people can be this way. You are also hurt because things did not pan out between you. Furthermore, you are even more confused/hurt/ because he was really honest with you in telling you of the other person. This attracts you to him on a social level because he confided in you and you were able to be there for him. There was a connection on a deeper level- not necessarily intimate.
As for him, this is the type of man that evokes drama. He has been fascinated with this type of life for so long and it is a part of him. It is even evident in the women he chooses- such as the stalker. He has the ability to lure these shallow and weak minded women and before they know it, they start off wondering why he hurt them. Then they become more intrigued by his drama. Then all of a sudden, they are now acting in his movie only to find out that they too now have become the stalkers.
You seem to have the door cracked open asking all these questions and being puzzled while thinking he will change. This is the initial stage and he is prepping you. If you open it all the way, you too will fall victim to his web-filled drama. It is almost as if he can't live without the thrill of drama. Some people enjoy the thrill of cruising for sex such as street prostitution. Some gays love going to fitness clubs in search of casual sex. Some enjoy the thrill of multiple dating, and some enjoy the thrill of cheating with a close family member of their significan other.
Now you know the type of person he is and that you are vulnerable. The reason why you have all these questions is because you are attracted to him. It just so happens that he has so much involved at the moment that he hasn't gotten a chance to catch you and you haven’t really gotten too deep. But all this crying, telling you about him being in love with another is all part of the scheme. It works and has been since the beginning of time. Women fall for this all the type. Hopefully, you are not one of those.
But I have a feeling, if he takes out his other bags of tricks and takes it into high gear, let me not go there...
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