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Complications of it. I don't really know, we split, I found out a couple years later on a google search of her name that she had died. Her family never even told me. They didn't like me for whatever reason much.
Well after reading your post it appears to me that you seem to really care about her, since you know so much of the details about her situation. But I have to be honest. This problem is not going to go away. If you care about her enough to stay with her, then you have to find a way to have an honest conversation with her about these issues and maybe offer to help in some way. But make no mistake, these issues, even if by some miracle are not permanent, will be there for a long time. It's up to you to accept that and decide if it's something you can deal with. And it's okay to admit if it is all too much for you. That's better than taking something on knowing full well you can't deal with it and hurting yourself, your girlfriend, her kid and her brother in the process. But only you can make that decision. Good luck to you!
I also want to add that even if you think you can deal with all of this long-term, if you're not careful resentment can fester and you can start to take it out on her or the other people in her lives without realizing it. Think about that also.
What is she actually doing to resolve any of these problems? If nothing, then there's no reason to stay.
If you read the OP, she has been the doctor to get bloodwork done, she has a gyn appointment later this month, and has a neuro appointment in march of 15.
Time to get out man. What is the point of a relationship if you can't kiss, touch, have sex with, or feel the girl. Even with grade 6 Autism you can find better chicks than this homie. Good luck!
Yeah, a friend of mine's dad died from it. But I just looked it up. They say in only severe cases it's fatal, and those are rare.
hm, OP. You say she's getting tested and evaluated to see if there's a medical cause for the asexuality? B12? I'm not sure, I think a B12 shortage can contribute to depression, and depression affects the libido, so, maybe. What about her testosterone levels?
It's a tough call. You two seem like a pretty good match, except for that one thing, and it's a biggie. On the other hand, your concerns about unwanted pregnancies would be minimized. (The silver lining in the grey no-sex cloud.)
I think highly compassionate people have a tendency to overlook their own needs. That's the situation you're heading into.
IDK. Wait and see? Give her a month of no pressure or talk about sex, and then ask if there's any news from the doctors.
If you read the OP, she has been the doctor to get bloodwork done, she has a gyn appointment later this month, and has a neuro appointment in march of 15.
That's good, but going to any number of doctors isn't going to address her living and family situation, which is just as much of an issue with your lack of intimacy.
First off, 6 months is an extremely long time. You don't need to worry about missing any benefit from waiting longer.
Second, sex is not a priority for her. She is dealing with much more urgent matters -- her health, her family's health, probably poverty... If she had the energy and interest for change she would have done so by now.
You could try fixing some of the barriers she names. You could go with her to the doctor to make sure libido gets discussed. You could find her a DAYTIME sitter so you two have some alone time (sex is possible in the daytime, and this way you won't be kicking her son out of his bed).
But it might be more effective to ask her if there is another reason. A very large percentage of women in the US have been assaulted and raped, for example, either as children or as adults. There may be other reasons why she wants to avoid sex.
That's good, but going to any number of doctors isn't going to address her living and family situation, which is just as much of an issue with your lack of intimacy.
This is true. What would a relationship with her look like? It seems like she's already stretched fairly thin and is committed to caregiving 2 relatives. How would the OP fit in, except as an assistant caregiver? Where would they all live? Is there Social Security income for the two disabled ones?
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