Building trust in long distance relationship

[MrRational]

Originally Posted by lastwomanstanding

I think LDRs work if the people involved want them to .
Comments, please.

I don't. Or at least certainly not as simplistically or unqualifiedly as that.

Even when the couple has had a long standing successful relationship prior to adding the
complication of distance (and time) apart it's hard to hold on to what they had. For long.
The travel expenses and logistics required to manage only add to that tension.

But if you're talking about establishing a relationship from scratch and from a distance?
Wanting to make it work is the least of the problems they'll have until one or the other
can relocate.

But at that point this couple is essentially starting over from scratch but worse because you
already know too much about them before you can be around them to learn those things.
It's rather like when OLD correspondence goes on too long before meeting.

The emotional discovery" process becomes one of intellectual "confirmation" instead.

[strawberrykiki]

Long distance is tough because you can't get that face to face validation when you need reassurance that everything is going well and the other person is happy. I have a lot of insecurities from past failed relationships. I try my best to overcome them, but we are all still a product of our pasts. It sounds like perhaps your guy was just busy/preoccupied and I don't think you should jump to any bad conclusions.