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If you have a belief system and you are comfortable with it and wish to raise a family that will be entrenched in that system, you don't really have a choice but to marry (yes, I said marry) a person who holds those same beliefs.
Perhaps if more people spent more time finding out what they believe in, then they would care more about what the prospective mothers and fathers of their future children believe in.
Too many choices that we, as a society make, are dependent upon things such as looks or qualities that are relatively short lived. Beliefs are lifelong and they are important.
When I was dating, I looked exclusively for a man who was comfortably entrenched in my religion. I knew him about two minutes before I asked him a question that revealed the answer. If he had answered otherwise, I would have turned around and walked away. That is my comfort zone and it's great to know what you want so that you can attempt to avoid a future possibly uncomfortable situation when the relationship moves up a notch and the discussion of children enters the picture.
Have any of you ever dated someone that only wanted to date a certain religion? Like a guy who was Jewish and only dated Jewish girls, Christians who only dated Christians etc.
If I sensed the person I'm dating was only into dating someone of their own culture or religion and the were dating me? I'd move on. If they were truly devout to their religion, then they can date their own.
You accept a person for her they are or you don't. And if they don't accept you, then wish them luck. Life's too short.
I think this is very common with Jewish and Indian people. Not to say other religions don't care but I think typically if I'm catholic and your protestant as long as we hvae the same morals and values no big deal. I notice Jewish people oftne want their kids to marry Jewish people. I also dated an Indian girl for a while and her parents only wanted her to marry an indian man.
I'm an atheist and the majority of people I've dated were Christian. I thought about limiting myself to only dating other atheists, but it always seemed a little odd to connect with someone over your lack of belief in something. Plus there aren't a lot of atheists around and its not like they wear a sign telling the world they're atheist. What I pay more attention to is how religious someone is. Some people say they're Christian, but it's really in name only. If they're deeply religious and go to church all the time, attend Bible study, etc., I know I won't be compatible with that person. Plus, the deeply religious folk tend to be Republican, which is another reason I wouldn't date them. If my partner wanted me to go to church with them, I'd probably decline as I'm not a big fan of organized religion. Ultimately, it comes down to how much is that person's religion a part of their core identity. Do they see it as a big part of who they are or just something they seldom think about? If you plan to have kids together, that only complicates things since then you have to figure out how to raise them. In general, I think it's best to be with someone who's on the same page. But you also have to a bit flexible and accept that you may never find someone you're in 100% agreement with.
I think this is very common with Jewish and Indian people. Not to say other religions don't care but I think typically if I'm catholic and your protestant as long as we hvae the same morals and values no big deal. I notice Jewish people oftne want their kids to marry Jewish people. I also dated an Indian girl for a while and her parents only wanted her to marry an indian man.
With regards to Indians, I don't think that has to do with religion. Indian culture can be pretty conservative. I've met a few Indians whose families accepted their white partners, but there's still a lot of pushback against marrying outside the race.
Actually I am...I know my catholicism very well, don't agree or do everything, but I'm very familiar with everything: birth control, abortion, the pro life thing, Pope Francis, etc.
Don't know about you but I'm in Neocathecumenal Way, a strong movement in the Catholic Church
Which makes it all the more clear that you are not, in fact, "speaking for Catholics," as a group.
My husband wasnt a believer but i was. I wouldnt make that mistake again.
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