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Exactly. Which is why I would love to see lawmakers make it a FEDERAL crime and TREASON for women who take advantage of soldiers. This includes divorce and cheating while on deployment. Too many scumbags out there trying to take advantage of our soldiers so we need to make sure we do what we can to take care of them.
Now, to be fair, sometimes people just cannot cope with a deployment and they went into a marriage with the best of intentions.
I'd really like to see financial protections in place for deployed soldiers, though.
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So does that mean that every girl who is attracted to anybody in the military is assumed to be a gold digger right away even though there really is no gold if it is a regular enlisted guy?
Housing and healthcare is nice to have, but that's about it. Gold diggers are much better off marrying a rich old guy who provides a manions instead of a townhouse and some real $$$$.
I would be wary of anyone looking for someone who works some specific job.
Groupie or fetish sounds like to me... like women attracted to cops and firefighters
It is not much different as dating only blondes or skinny people ...
It is a preference like any other.
I never intended to get involved with a military guy. It just happened. However, after my failed marriage with a military guy, I must say I have started to like the lifestyle and would prefer military over many other professions. I have gone on military dating pages because I think I was a good military wife (but I am dating a non military guy now).
It has nothing to do with health insurance or the lousy housing money. I would do much better moneywise hanging out in Malibu and hunting down some millionaires. I just like the military lifestyle and miss it a little now that I am away from it.I get a little bit of weak knees every time I see a guy in uniform.
It is not much different as dating only blondes or skinny people ...
It is a preference like any other.
I disagree. "blondes" and "brunettes" are a huge demographic. While a specific trait, not too specific.
Saying you dig only blondes, or gingers does not come off as creepy. Saying you dig just someone who performs a specific job role does. Comes across as very "fetishy" to me
It really amuses me that some women pick men based on professions. I work with all kinds of different people, our job is the only thing we have even remotely in common. I know a lot of retired military people from previous jobs that hired a lot of them. Some of them are really fun that are free thinkers while others are brainwashed tools that can't use the restroom unless they are instructed to do so.
Everyone is different! What does a career path have to do with anything?
So does that mean that every girl who is attracted to anybody in the military is assumed to be a gold digger right away even though there really is no gold if it is a regular enlisted guy?
Housing and healthcare is nice to have, but that's about it. Gold diggers are much better off marrying a rich old guy who provides a manions instead of a townhouse and some real $$$$.
I know, right? When I married my (now) he was an E-2. Trust me, it was a downgrade to my lifestyle. First off, I earned a lot more than my ex, so my "average" income dropped when I married him. And I already had great benefits at my old job (that I had to leave to move to his new duty station) and I lived in a nice place (the base housing was okay, but it "wasn't all that.")
I would find it pretty hilarious to be called a gold digger. Then again, I also didn't "seek out" a military man like the OP is talking about. Honestly, it seems kind of weird to me.
When you marry a military man, your life gets turned upside down. Long deployments, you have to move all the time (and give up your job and your friends each time), the military considers you kind of second class/a dependent, and the "benefits" aren't all that great IMO. And even if you think the long deployments won't bug you, they will... and they come with other consequences besides just being apart (like worry for his safety!) You can get better benefits in the private sector (but if you marry military, good luck getting one of those jobs because it's hard to get someone to hire you when your resume has you at a new company every two years).
Being married to a military man set me back on a lot... my career, when I can retire (because of lost savings due to unemployment between duty stations), my life (I missed out on a lot back home while following him around the globe). And in the end, he left me just two months after he separated from the military. In a lot of ways, I was just part of his military life and when he was no longer in the military, he no longer needed me. So, in the end, for me, it was all for nothing.
Don't marry military because you want to marry a military man. Marry a military man because you want and love him for who *he* is as a man, despite the fact that he's in the military.
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