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So it is a ultimatum, not a discussion? That wouldn't work for me. Plenty of people celebrate the holidays in a strictly secular sense. If he won't go along, then I would issue my own ultimatum. I would be happy to bow out of the Christmas madness, but use the time as "family time" and take a vacation.
That wouldn't fly with me. He's forcing you and your child to drop traditions you've held dear all your lives. There needs to be some sort of compromise.
Are you dependent on him for money? Do you work outside the home?
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My husband threw a biggie on me last night. He no longer wants to celebrate Christmas or Easter due to his new religious beliefs.
No tree no decoration in house.
We've been together more then 13 years and have always had similar beliefs. We have a 9 year old and have always celebrated these holidays.
What would you do?
Tell him that he can convert.....but he doesn't get to control you and your daughter based only on his religion.
Prepare yourself.....when people get deep into the fundie it becomes all they care about.....this is a dangerous time for your marriage....ND you.
Given that he has TOLD you how it's gonna be from now on, he has demonstrated he is someone who is inconsiderate & intolerant.
As he gets older, this will become worse & worse.
Keep the peace for now but make serious, secret, practical plans to escape this doomed, unfair relationship.
Seriously.
If he's immersing himself in some sort of religion, he's immersing himself into mental illness. Chances are he already is mentally ill. A sane person would naturally be considerate and understanding about other people's beliefs & practises. A sane man would favour peace & harmony within the family rather than allegiance to some sort of fictional fundamentalism.
Opinions wanted.
My husband threw a biggie on me last night. He no longer wants to celebrate Christmas or Easter due to his new religious beliefs.
No tree no decoration in house.
We've been together more then 13 years and have always had similar beliefs. We have a 9 year old and have always celebrated these holidays.
What would you do?
The REAL truth is that he wants a divorce and this is his whacked out way of trying to get one through masking it in some new 'religious belief'....
This may just be the beginning of the end of your marriage! He will force you to make more and more changes to comply with his religion and you will have to decide how far you are willing to go. You may try counselling, but it sounds like he is all about himself and his religion.
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