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Size 2/4 is not curvy. But that's ok, you just don't get to have that *one* positive word define your body type. The majority of positive words are for your body type.
Plus if you look good to someone who matters to you, the descriptive term hardly matters. Nobody looks at his size 2/4 girlfriend and thinks, "she's pretty but can't be accurately described as 'curvy' so I'm not so sure..." If someone is attracted, they're attracted. That goes for slim, fit, lean, curvy and even fat.
Learn DIY. Hardware stores are full of men & they always fall all over me. I'm not looking, but if I was I'd be doing home fix up projects all the time.
Learn DIY. Hardware stores are full of men & they always fall all over me. I'm not looking, but if I was I'd be doing home fix up projects all the time.
That really depends on the woman. I know women who have done home projects quite a bit, but no one notices them when they're in the hardware store. Some women (and men) do better getting involved in group activities of various sorts, where people can get to know them by their personalities, rather than by their looks.
Yes, body size matters!!! I don't think the OP sounds fat at all though. I have a not so funny story that maybe I'll laugh about eventually. If only I'd journaled all my dates since the divorce, I'd have a best seller and really could move to Spain and find the woman of my dreams. But I digress. Last night I had a date with a woman who described herself as "curvy". First off, I broke my #1 rule with online dating, which is no body shot, no date. She had 3 face shots. I asked her about her body and she said curvy. I went one farther and asked what that meant to her. I get a BS answer about women having curves, blah, blah, blah. So fine, met her for dinner. I found out "curvy" is the new word for fat. Or is that BBW? Who knows. Suffice it to say I will not make that mistake again. So that story just illustrates how body size and fitness matters. i'm into fitness, eat healthy, etc., and I refuse to ever date a woman who doesn't make an effort in those areas.
I'm a fan of curves on a woman. There's a big difference between curves and obesity. And yes, it matters to me because I want a woman who values a similar healthy lifestyle. We're too fat in this country, and I'm not going to be one of the massive masses
I'm a fan of curves on a woman. There's a big difference between curves and obesity. And yes, it matters to me because I want a woman who values a similar healthy lifestyle. We're too fat in this country, and I'm not going to be one of the massive masses
Unfortunately, curvy is now synonymous with obese because everyone got their feelings hurt. I don't know what is so hard about facing the facts if you are fat or not. Political correctness has gone too far.
Hopefully, this will not start a flame war and pissing contest, but I do have a genuine question, mostly for the more mature in terms of age audience on this forum.
I ventured back onto a dating site, and noticed several things. Men, of ALL sizes prefer lean women, and often seem to succeed in pulling them ashore, even the chubbiest of fellas. Some women, and I don't intend a sweeping generalization with this, do not seem to mind the size of a guy as much as men seem to mind the size of a woman. Especially on a dating site, where marketing matters, and the initial impression is based on a few photos and words on screen. Moreso, a woman could have all the "features" a guy is looking for, but when she packs on a few extra pounds (I'm not talking grossly and debilitatingly obese), everything else seems to fade in light of this imperfection.
I know many large, and much larger than me women in satisfying relationships, but maybe I'm just having a bad day, am I doomed for singledom because of my weight? I have already lost 30 lbs, and continue to go further, for myself, but this is a process that will take time, especially at my age.
Thoughts anyone?
I haven't read through this entire thread, but I wanted to offer up my own situation. I'm a male in his late 30s, 5'8" tall, weigh 155 pounds, and have a 30 inch waist. I'm not very muscular, but I'm not super skinny either. I eat right and exercise and I'm generally drawn to people who are health conscious. I don't have a specific type. I've dated women who were very athletic and women who were overweight. The woman I'm currently dating is in her early 40s, 5'7" tall, and would probably be described by most people as overweight. I've never speculated as to how much she weighs, but I've had a number of people say she probably weighs more than I do. Maybe she does, maybe she doesn't. The best part is that I really don't care. I've been having such a good time with her that I find myself not worrying about her weight. One of the things I find so attractive about her is her confidence. She's aware of her appearance and is working on trying to change it, but I never get the sense she's insecure about it. I've known guys who would date overweight women but be embarrassed about it. They wouldn't introduce the person to their friends or they'd try to encourage the woman to lose weight. I feel good that I'm neither embarrassed nor trying to get the person I'm dating to change. She wants to slim down and I'm certainly supportive of whatever she wants to do. But I'm not pressuring her to lose weight. I'm sure there are people who'll say I'm settling. But as I've gotten older, I've learned to care less about what others think and more about what I feel. And right now, I feel great. I met someone I like, she likes me, and we have fun together. She's currently on medication that makes it hard to lose weight. So if she's not able to lose anything, that's still fine by me. I did have one person say something rather cruel. They implied this woman would lose interest in me if she did lose weight. In other words, an overweight woman has to "settle", but once she slims down, she can raise her standards. So to the OP, I'm proof that there are men out there who won't hold your weight against you. What's important to remember is the impression you convey. Do you come across as insecure and embarrassed of your weight? Lack of self-confidence is a huge turn off. This woman I'm dating now is so confident, yet humble that she makes younger and thinner women look downright invisible.
I'm a fan of curves on a woman. There's a big difference between curves and obesity. And yes, it matters to me because I want a woman who values a similar healthy lifestyle. We're too fat in this country, and I'm not going to be one of the massive masses
Nothing wrong with seeking a similar lifestyle, IMO
It's not supposed to be fat but many fat women call themselves curvy.
I'm always at a crossroads which body type to choose when on a dating site. If I go with full-figure, I'm out the window instantly for most men. BBW I'm definitely not. I like "curvy", because I have an hourglass shape, and wider hips. BUT, I always post current full-body shots as well, so the viewer can be the judge. Then again, I see many obese men calling themselves "average", or "athletic".
I'm always at a crossroads which body type to choose when on a dating site. If I go with full-figure, I'm out the window instantly for most men. BBW I'm definitely not. I like "curvy", because I have an hourglass shape, and wider hips. BUT, I always post current full-body shots as well, so the viewer can be the judge. Then again, I see many obese men calling themselves "average", or "athletic".
The problem with listing yourself as curvy is that many guys will assume that's code for overweight. I know guys who assume average means overweight. Unfortunately, you don't have a lot of control over how people will interpret certain labels. When I did online dating, I deliberately didn't filter by body type, not because I didn't care what someone looked like, but because I didn't want to risk filtering out someone I might find attractive even though she was overweight. Dating, especially online, requires keeping an open mind and not being in such a hurry to eliminate people. I didn't meet the person I'm dating now online. I met her the old fashioned way. But I wonder if I had seen her profile online whether I would've still contacted her. Had she listed herself as curvy or slightly overweight and I limited my search to women who were average or thinner, I would've missed out. Like I said, you can't worry about what men will assume about you. If they're going to exclude you because a label, a label that could mean different things to different people, then perhaps you're better off without them. Just be honest about you are and make sure your pictures accurately represent how you look. Don't dwell on what your supposed disadvantages are and don't try to trick readers into viewing your profile.
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