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I have a rather difficult time believing that you can't find attractive 30-year-old women in London who aren't looking to settle down right away. I would think London would be one of the major world capitols for that demographic, actually.
The problem is, 30 year old professional women aren't going to be hanging out at the sort of bars I can access because I'm fresh out of 'prison' so to speak no career and no money, so for those women I have nothing to offer and am completely off putting.
All my friends just don't go out anymore - most of them are getting married or already are, so I have no one to go out with.
The issue is with me, as I missed out on all the early social skills you are meant to pick up, is it's not easy for me just to go to a bar/club I can access on my own (being in your early 20s doesn't mean you have to be rolling in it so I can fit in those clubs), especially since all the depressive emotions of regret and depression actually surface as soon as I approach that environment. My early 20s is something I really wanted to experience, and being the oldest desperate guy in the club or just being older than 28 and in such a club is just woeful.
It's a no win for me all around.. this is why I believe I have in fact missed the boat.. Too many things stacked against me, not enough experience and all I have going is fading looks because I look old although not unattractive..
Last edited by SwordinStone; 02-12-2015 at 02:37 AM..
Dude there is no boat to miss, get your life together first (Well at least somewhat, I never have my life totaly together but I have still worked it out sort of). 30 is quite young. The harder you try and the more desparate you are the less chances you have. Dating a bit older is not a bad thing either.
The issue is with me, as I missed out on all the early social skills you are meant to pick up, is it's not easy for me just to go to a bar/club I can access on my own (being in your early 20s doesn't mean you have to be rolling in it so I can fit in those clubs),
Why do you think you have to go to a bar to meet women? Women are everywhere, all the time.
I don't think there are many people on this planet who claim the early 20's were the best time of their life. I think real life starts somewhere around 26, so end 20's 'til early 40's are probably the best time,imo. besides I don't believe that you lack social skills. You made it to 30, so you definitely developed some social skills. Stop thinking about the things you might have missed. Stop making excuses. Stop being afraid to live your life. You only have one.
The problem is, 30 year old professional women aren't going to be hanging out at the sort of bars I can access because I'm fresh out of 'prison' so to speak no career and no money, so for those women I have nothing to offer and am completely off putting.
All my friends just don't go out anymore - most of them are getting married or already are, so I have no one to go out with.
The issue is with me, as I missed out on all the early social skills you are meant to pick up, is it's not easy for me just to go to a bar/club I can access on my own (being in your early 20s doesn't mean you have to be rolling in it so I can fit in those clubs), especially since all the depressive emotions of regret and depression actually surface as soon as I approach that environment. My early 20s is something I really wanted to experience, and being the oldest desperate guy in the club or just being older than 28 and in such a club is just woeful.
It's a no win for me all around.. this is why I believe I have in fact missed the boat.. Too many things stacked against me, not enough experience and all I have going is fading looks because I look old although not unattractive..
You did experience your early 20s, it just wasn't what you hoped for. You can't ever go back and be 20 again. Time to accept that and move forward, lest you waste all of your 30s too. Regret is a waste of time.
You did experience your early 20s, it just wasn't what you hoped for. You can't ever go back and be 20 again. Time to accept that and move forward, lest you waste all of your 30s too. Regret is a waste of time.
No it was exactly what I hoped for in terms of opportunities, friends, social circles and women literally throwing themselves at me, the only problem was I just had a debilitating mental illness that meant I had to take 30 minute breaks or feel like **** all the time meaning I couldn't relax and be myself.
So no I didn't experience it, it was like having to watch a great party inside a house around a warm fire while standing on the outside behind caged bars in the pouring cold rain despite having an invite to that party, so no spending all my time in therapy, psych wards and bed ridden was NOT experiencing my 20s..
hey good luck to you... .Maybe it is a guy thing....
My bf who is 50 still wants those younger girls in their early 20's. I think alot of men feel that way. My ex-husband, who is 10 years older than me, told me he only dated women who were alot younger than him because as he put it, "By the time a woman reaches 30 her face changes and she looks old." (I have known him since I was 16, he was 26...we got married when I was 25, so I certainly wasn't looking forward to turning 30 having heard that.) I've been with some real winners.
If you keep chasing the past, you will never have a future. However, you do have an opportunity to train yourself into the man you want to be. Unfortunately, once you become that guy, you aren't going to really be interested in women who are 19-24 anymore. Are you sure you really want those young girls because of what you missed? Or are you interested in them, because you feel your experience level equals theirs? I have noticed that a lot of guys who don't have experience, like to meet young girls. I doubt it has only to do with being a hard body, because there are tons of ladies in their 30 and 40's who have better bodies than the muffin topped 20 year olds I see today. Perhaps your interest stems from your lack of experience, and a genuine fear that women who are in your age group would want to have nothing to do with someone like yourself. This is where you are wrong, women who are experienced tend to not be as cruel as young girls are....that's a maturity thing that people grow out of in their 20's.
I think you need to meet an older female, who can take you under her wing, and teach you things. After a year of lessons, you will have the confidence that could help you pull more young girls. I would guarantee, that once you are capable, that the jones' for that flavor will wane.
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