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Old 03-02-2015, 04:13 PM
 
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Love and children.
We love each other, and we want children.

We don't believe in having children when unmarried..for goodness sakes I am a catholic, lol that was facetiousness but seriously that is one thing we have traditional views on.
How does marrige change your situation?
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Old 03-02-2015, 04:21 PM
 
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Didn't read whole thread so not sure if this was said.

If you go ahead with the activity, then what? Do you see this as a one-time thing? Does he? Does she? How will this change the relationships?
It might be? I didn't forsee it changing anything more than if I was friends with a massage therapist and we both (me & her) both got massages from him.

I didn't want to change anything that's why he wasn't brought into it. Nothing would change with her, it's him I'm worried about. He's my best friend.
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Old 03-02-2015, 04:37 PM
 
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I just cant believe this.

Keep on snowing yourself OP.

You know it's going to end in tears.
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Old 03-02-2015, 05:23 PM
 
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I just cant believe this.

Keep on snowing yourself OP.

You know it's going to end in tears.
^^^^ I agree

It will.

I just do not have the same views relationship wise that the OP and his fiance have.

Nor what should happen within a relationship.
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Old 03-02-2015, 05:25 PM
 
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lost me with the not being gay part

straight men don't do or think about sexual things with other men period point blank
Does not compute with me either
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Old 03-02-2015, 05:58 PM
 
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lost me with the not being gay part

straight men dont do or think about sexual things with other men period point blank
Pretty much all straight porn disagrees with you. Men watch other men all the time.
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Old 03-02-2015, 06:06 PM
 
Location: Canada
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I just cant believe this.

Keep on snowing yourself OP.

You know it's going to end in tears.
I just can't help but think that the OP wants validation for even thinking about a 3-way..These things should be private...Indeed..It's up to her, IF she wants to engage in this..I wouldn't normally Judge/comment on something like this..BUT airing it publicly>Is on her
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Old 03-02-2015, 06:06 PM
 
Location: Earth
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Pretty much all straight porn disagrees with you. Men watch other men all the time.
Have to agree with this. Going on how some act, a straight woman should only watch gay porn and straight men should only watch lesbian porn, and anything else means they're bi or gay if they're watching something with the same gender involved.
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Old 03-02-2015, 06:32 PM
 
Location: Vail, CO
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I just cant believe this.

Keep on snowing yourself OP.

You know it's going to end in tears.
I don't really buy that either, you'd be shocked how some couples are.

I know of one couple that goes to swinger parties and attends these really strange clubs (Huge orgies, from the sound of it) all the time. They were talking about it to our mutual friends. We always kind of knew about it, but not the details. My buddy just bluntly asked them about it, because that's how he is. It was a weird conversation, we all had the deer in the headlight look going on. They seem like such normal people, and are for the most part. They've been together 25 some years and have three children.

They seem like a happy couple, but I really don't know them too well. My buddy used to sell a lot of weed to them during our younger years so they come up for ski trips and visit every once in a while.

I say if they can handle it, kudos. I couldn't, that's for sure!

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Old 03-02-2015, 06:41 PM
 
Location: California side of the Sierras
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Yes essentially that was it, he gets his experience and me and her get our experience. Because I know he is not dirty or gross and is disease free he would be an ideal candidate to be "the third"
However I don't want to have him get all emotional and attached and make things awkward because IMO he has no desire to screw a woman he just wants to get me in a position where I am naked and *aroused* so perhaps I will do something with him, which ain't happening.

Guess I'm just going to have to settle with watching porn, no real thing for me :/
But only if he is into doing Maria. Otherwise, Maria is not going to have much fun.
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