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I agree with the person who said if you want the MMF 3 way, don't get your BF involved in that mix. It sounds like he still holds out some hope for you both. To me, it sounds like a bad idea. JMO.
Don't do it. He has desires and feelings for you and I imaging it is going to be difficult for him to control that while the three of your are naked in the room, but trying to keep some kind of boundary between the two of you. Sounds like a recipe for a whole lot of drama, hurt feelings, etc.
There sure are a lot of women in the world if he would like to explore what it would be like with one.
I would run, not walk, from this potential situation OP if I were you.
^Has a good point. Straight guys don't have 3-ways with gay men that they know are attracted to them. That's odd.
My theory? You got turned off by the idea that being attracted to and having sex with a man meant you were gay. You didn't get turned off because you're not bisexual.
You should sort that out. Mentally, I mean.
How old are all of you?
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I was in a very similar situation several years ago.
My best friend is bisexual and she wanted a threesome with her and her boyfriend. She knew that I used to have a crush on her boyfriend before they were together, so she figured it was a good situation. It wasn't planned ahead of time (at least nobody said anything to me!), it just kinda developed.
When she realized that I wasn't up to doing anything sexual with her, she had a total breakdown and locked herself in the bathroom crying. I felt horrible. Her boyfriend felt horrible. It just didn't work out.
We are still friends and everything, but I should have known what she really wanted and stopped it before it began.
My problem with the OP is this: you basically want to use your friend to get off on watching him with your fiancee. You know this will be an emotional situation for him, not just sexual. You know he will make a move on you. It will be very awkward. I wouldn't do it.
I think if you wanna experiment with your gf you should NOT do it with a guy that loves you.
Think it the other way around: what if she was the one who came up with the suggestion to experiment FMM and suggested to do it with a guy thats in love with her??
this is a lose-lose situation, sepcially cause you are friends with tommy, and you really love him as a friend. Probably he will end up hurt. Your gf too. Therefore you too.
My suggestion: do the FMM thing, but not with your friend. Just with a complete stranger.
Don't do it. Both your relationship with your fiance and your relationship with your best friend will be jeopardized if you do. There is very little chance that this would have a happy ending.
For those who suggested I love tommy more than I love her, no.
I do love her very much, I have no doubts I wanna marry her and have a gaggle of kids with Her. She is great and I daresay we have an almost perfect relationship.
I don't want to have sex with men, as in the idea of a man touching my penis or me penetrating a man doesn't turn me on. If I was I would be sleeping with men, I have no hang ups. No one would even care.
Google 'gangbang' that's what turns me on, not him. Apparently it turns on many other men too because there is a whole genre of porn dedicated to it.
I'm not going to do it with him, simply because I don't want him to get hurt. Because in this situation I have no desire to touch him. Which means I'm not going to even bring it up because I don't trust anyone else to do this.
As for it bothering me, it's just sex..I would be more jealous if she kissed him then if she got ******* by him
For those who suggested I love tommy more than I love her, no.
I do love her very much, I have no doubts I wanna marry her and have a gaggle of kids with Her. She is great and I daresay we have an almost perfect relationship.
I don't want to have sex with men, as in the idea of a man touching my penis or me penetrating a man doesn't turn me on. If I was I would be sleeping with men, I have no hang ups. No one would even care.
Google 'gangbang' that's what turns me on, not him. Apparently it turns on many other men too because there is a whole genre of porn dedicated to it.
I'm not going to do it with him, simply because I don't want him to get hurt. Because in this situation I have no desire to touch him. Which means I'm not going to even bring it up because I don't trust anyone else to do this.
As for it bothering me, it's just sex..I would be more jealous if she kissed him then if she got ******* by him
Also, she might feel quite insulted that you want to do that. Some women can't handle it either.
You are smart not to get your friend involved. Now be a good friend and find him a nice woman who just wants a one night stand so that he can scratch his hetero itch!
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