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Anyway, I just recently "dated" (we just went out really, no holding hands or anything) a 28 year old, so it's no THAT weird.
Did she consider it dating? It sounds like you were just friends if you didn't even hold her hand.
A woman in her 20's dating a man in his 40's isn't that weird - but it's not that common either. To be perfectly honest, the age gap is beside the point, to me. You have designated this woman as marriage material and have set your sights on her - but you don't know her at all. So, that's a little odd. But then you make a comment to her about her Facebook page - when you don't know her at all and you aren't friends with her on Facebook - so I would say that wasn't the best thing to do.
There is nothing wrong with getting to know her. Just don't be upset if she doesn't view you as someone she would date because of the age difference or simply because she isn't attracted to you - and don't be upset if she doesn't turn out to be the woman that you have made her into in your head.
If you aren't friends with her, then your message probably ended up in her "other" mailbox and a lot of people never check that mailbox. You need to be friends with her first in order for her to see your messages for sure.
I always check my "other" mailbox because I always have messages but most of the time it's by strange guys who think I am pretty and those get deleted. I actually changed my photo to a popular animated show so I won't be bombarded by those messages. Most women I know do the same thing on Facebook. Even when I was seeking a man I never used Facebook in that way.
I always check my "other" mailbox because I always have messages but most of the time it's by strange guys who think I am pretty and those get deleted. I actually changed my photo to a popular animated show so I won't be bombarded by those messages. Most women I know do the same thing on Facebook. Even when I was seeking a man I never used Facebook in that way.
To the OP, you can argue Dew's advice to you, but I agree with all of her points. I'll add that I never wanted to date someone that much older than me. Think about it in the reverse.... do you want to date a 60 year old woman who looks good for her age?
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Did she consider it dating? It sounds like you were just friends if you didn't even hold her hand.
A woman in her 20's dating a man in his 40's isn't that weird - but it's not that common either. To be perfectly honest, the age gap is beside the point, to me. You have designated this woman as marriage material and have set your sights on her - but you don't know her at all. So, that's a little odd. But then you make a comment to her about her Facebook page - when you don't know her at all and you aren't friends with her on Facebook - so I would say that wasn't the best thing to do.
There is nothing wrong with getting to know her. Just don't be upset if she doesn't view you as someone she would date because of the age difference or simply because she isn't attracted to you - and don't be upset if she doesn't turn out to be the woman that you have made her into in your head.
It was just 2 dates or so...with the 28 year old gal. Dates or not...I'm subtle when it comes to the first set of dates.
The "marriage material" thing was perhaps misunderstood, yes I don't know her very well, but you gotta start somewhere, and I'm based on what I heard about her, she's very close to her parents, not clubbing much, not into the whole heavy partying thing, that's what I'm told, but I need of course to talk to her. Yes the mention of her facebook, may be interpreted as creepy and was off, but it isn't that weird because we share a lot of friends in common (like 20, most of the church), so it's likely I was just looking at one of our common friends FB and saw her pics. Nothin' strange there.
Sometimes is hard to come up with a good plan to start a conversation really, but who knows...I'll try to wait for her today after mass.
I think, maybe I'm over reacting, she was a little bit surprised in a good way because I compliment her. The age thing is really not that far fetched. She most likely don't know my age and for the looks, I look like 30 something really.
Yes, I tend to elaborate and fall in love with "ideas". My imagination runs wild often and that becomes my worst enemy. Sometimes reality hits hard.
But it's part of the game so to speak. You fall, you learn, you pick yourself up, you let go...
To the OP, you can argue Dew's advice to you, but I agree with all of her points. I'll add that I never wanted to date someone that much older than me. Think about it in the reverse.... do you want to date a 60 year old woman who looks good for her age?
A 60 year old is the same as a 40? Damn...I dunno
I know a couple of 50 year old "golden girls" who can still rock the boat you know.
It was just 2 dates or so...with the 28 year old gal. Dates or not...I'm subtle when it comes to the first set of dates.
The "marriage material" thing was perhaps misunderstood, yes I don't know her very well, but you gotta start somewhere, and I'm based on what I heard about her, she's very close to her parents, not clubbing much, not into the whole heavy partying thing, that's what I'm told, but I need of course to talk to her. Yes the mention of her facebook, may be interpreted as creepy and was off, but it isn't that weird because we share a lot of friends in common (like 20, most of the church), so it's likely I was just looking at one of our common friends FB and saw her pics. Nothin' strange there.
Sometimes is hard to come up with a good plan to start a conversation really, but who knows...I'll try to wait for her today after mass.
I think, maybe I'm over reacting, she was a little bit surprised in a good way because I compliment her. The age thing is really not that far fetched. She most likely don't know my age and for the looks, I look like 30 something really.
Yes, I tend to elaborate and fall in love with "ideas". My imagination runs wild often and that becomes my worst enemy. Sometimes reality hits hard.
But it's part of the game so to speak. You fall, you learn, you pick yourself up, you let go...
Always on the move...
From my personal experience, thinking you know someone or thinking you know what they are like when you really don't know them at all can really come back to bite you in the butt. Sometimes it's disappointing when people don't live up to your expectations of them - and it also makes it harder to know what they are really like because you've already assumed what they are like.
And as for not looking your age - well it doesn't really matter how old you look. You are how old you are. When I was 13, I looked like I was 17 or 18 but I still couldn't drive a car. Like I've said - your age might not be a big deal to her. But it might be.
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A 60 year old is the same as a 40? Damn...I dunno
I know a couple of 50 year old "golden girls" who can still rock the boat you know.
So you don't think that a 60 year old is the same as a 40 year old - but you think that a 28 year old is the same as a 44 year old?
I am 43. I would have nothing in common with a woman in her 20's. We would be in such different places in life and experience. I think it would be worse for her. She has yet to experience many of things in life you have already done.
I don't know why people are giving the OP crap. Would you be saying this stuff if there wasn't an age difference? Probably not.
Leave him alone and let him do what he wants. I'm sure everyone has idealized a person we were crushing on from time to time. If you say you haven't, you are either a robot or a liar.
Skywalker, I wish you luck. May the force be with you. (Sorry, I had to say it )
I don't know what all the crap's about either. Some of these people seem to have a problem with the OP saying he's interested in this woman because of how she looks--uh, YEAH, THAT'S USUALLY HOW IT STARTS. It seems like some people just like to give other people a hard time.
I wish you the best, skywalker. May God's will be done.
By the way, I'm in a relationship with someone who's 24 years older than me (and I look younger and he looks older). We're getting married in October.
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