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I've been told she is not into clubbing. Her folkes weren't there either. Most likely she is with the folkes.
A couple of weeks ago she was at church and it was carnival weekend. Big holiday here in Panama. The most common thing was to go with her friends to carnival and she was at church.
The fact you need to even worry that it looks creepy tells you IT IS CREEPY
And your re-thinking your strategy (your methodical scheme) only shows your character
Let her be
It seems MrsApt that you have prejudices agains "older men than you" trying to picking you up. It's not the same 25 to 44, than 40 and 60. Come on...A sixty year old most likely has children of his own.
The "creepiness" is because I read and analyze all the inputs done here, and yes it's a surprise that a 20 year old gap is considered a "no no". Yes, it's a surprise for a 25 year old was surprised a person, introduced himself to her.
The strategy is mostly one thing: to talk to her more. Because even if I was 30, going out with a complete stranger is often dangerous, even if I know her through mutual friends.
It's not a "methodical scheme", it's not that I want to lure her to my apartment, man cave or whatever because I want to deflower a "virgin" or something of that nature...come on...
From my personal experience, thinking you know someone or thinking you know what they are like when you really don't know them at all can really come back to bite you in the butt. Sometimes it's disappointing when people don't live up to your expectations of them - and it also makes it harder to know what they are really like because you've already assumed what they are like.
And as for not looking your age - well it doesn't really matter how old you look. You are how old you are. When I was 13, I looked like I was 17 or 18 but I still couldn't drive a car. Like I've said - your age might not be a big deal to her. But it might be.
So you don't think that a 60 year old is the same as a 40 year old - but you think that a 28 year old is the same as a 44 year old?
On february of last year I went out with a girl more or like her age. It feel awkward for me, because I felt I was with a niece really. But it was more of the "childish attitude" than her age.
The advice in bold is very important, I made that mistake often.
But in the long run what matters is how you feel with the person. Not the age.
60 year old for me is not the same as a 40 year old.
A 28 year old is close to 25 year old.
Psychology defines maturity as "the learning process by experience" it's not the years it's the mileage.
I know a couple of divorced guys 42 years old and they think and act like a regular 20 year old kid.
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