Is she flirting, or is she asking an innocent question? (boyfriend, girl)
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Yeah, the 'rejecting women to seem like a stud'...I work with a guy like that. I've pointed out to him that some of the girls we work with that he warned me were '*******' when I started have always been kind to me, and I do nothing to garner it. No, I never saw the point in that--it's not me. But I gotta agree with you on the point of never knowing by not giving women 'undeserved attention'. I DO really want to overcome that, and it's what struck me enough about my encounter earlier to post about it.
It's just SO difficult when I've been told by female friends, relatives, co-workers--'yeah, I like to pull blah blah blah bull**** from time to time, because I can.' Women I've dated have told me that my aloofness drew them in, but you can't wait around for the next woman to be drawn to you by your disinterest (I think we all might get one shot at a woman approaching you based off that, and even then you have to have something going for yourself).
These women are full of **** and just trying to get people to think they are more desirable than they are. There are a couple of those on here too.
Assuming a woman is trying to flirt because she fixed her shoe, asked "Did you order yet?", and then looked over the counter for a staff member is really reaching if you ask me. Could she have been receptive if you'd attempted more conversation or flirting with her? Maybe. But as a woman, I hate the idea that my every move is being analyzed and something as simple as fixing my shoe could be misconstrued as flirting. What if I truly need to adjust or tie my shoe while I'm in public? Am I supposed to ignore it and risk my shoe flying off my foot or tripping over the laces so that some over-analyzing, self obsessed guy who thinks he's all that just because he's super tall doesn't mistake it for flirting? Newsflash: not every woman wants constant attention, not every woman is trying to get your attention in particular - and I'd like to think that if I did really want to get a guy's attention, and not just to boost my own ego but in hopes of actually getting a date, I'd be a bit more clever than fixing my shoe and asking "Did you order yet?"
I agree with this too. There have been times I've needed to touch my hair or pick something up or some such thing and been scared people would see it as flirting.. Which kinda sucks.
I guess a woman has to be extremely forward with you and say "I noticed you look bored, and I'm attracted to you. Would you like to talk with me sometime?" But then you'll overanalyze that she's then being desperate for validation while simultaneously expecting a woman to perform circus tricks for you to notice they are flirting with you and trying to interact. Gee whiz if the bend and snap and prancing all around you wasn't obvious then I don't know what to say.
I guess a woman has to be extremely forward with you and say "I noticed you look bored, and I'm attracted to you. Would you like to talk with me sometime?" But then you'll overanalyze that she's then being desperate for validation while simultaneously expecting a woman to perform circus tricks for you to notice they are flirting with you and trying to interact. Gee whiz if the bend and snap and prancing all around you wasn't obvious then I don't know what to say.
Plus stick her tongue in his ear. Of course, we'd likely see a post along the lines of "She stuck her tongue in my ear and invited me up to her apartment. Is she interested in me, or does she just want me to move heavy pieces of furniture?"
Plus stick her tongue in his ear. Of course, we'd likely see a post along the lines of "She stuck her tongue in my ear and invited me up to her apartment. Is she interested in me, or does she just want me to move heavy pieces of furniture?"
"She said 'I do,' we had five kids, and tomorrow we are celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary. Is she interested or just looking for attention?"
I think the fact that she BENT OVER and DID SOMETHING TO HER SHOE indicates that she was wet for you. You missed out, I suggest posting in the missed connections section of your local newspaper.
I think the fact that she BENT OVER and DID SOMETHING TO HER SHOE indicates that she was wet for you. You missed out, I suggest posting in the missed connections section of your local newspaper.
I think the fact that she BENT OVER and DID SOMETHING TO HER SHOE indicates that she was wet for you. You missed out, I suggest posting in the missed connections section of your local newspaper.
That and the fact that she was squealing, "Yes, Yes, take me with your Rod Of Power, my mighty stable boy." I mean, I think there were some major buying signals here.
That's just it--I don't want to let a sincere opportunity pass by. And what I mean by ignore is that I don't feed obvious attention-seekers. I've had good random encounters with women I don't know, but I don't feed into strangers (or co-workers) who seem to just expect men to fall down with desire for them because all the other opportunists pretend to.
It does bother me that I might miss out a good, sincere woman while dodging the ones I have no interest in.
It could have been anything. She might have been checking you out only because she felt too shy to ask you if you'd ordered yet. Then she finally got up the courage. Or she could have wanted to know if anyone had attended to you, because there didn't appear to be any personnel around at all (therefore--a legit question), AND she may have been attracted to you.
I think it should have been clear to you that her Q was legit, because of the absence of personnel, or of any evidence that you were being served. You were so intent on not feeding into a stranger's ego that you let a sincere opportunity pass by. I guess you're not the type that minds women who use foul language. Or maybe you overlook that for women who are "cute as can be". Next time try to loosen up a little. She wasn't being in-your-face, trying to get your attention with obvious flirtations.
Too late now, though. Better luck next time.
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Newsflash: not every woman wants constant attention, not every woman is trying to get your attention in particular - and I'd like to think that if I did really want to get a guy's attention, and not just to boost my own ego but in hopes of actually getting a date, I'd be a bit more clever than fixing my shoe and asking "Did you order yet?"
