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Don't make it so hard for your self. My grand mother is pinging these days.
Why is it making it hard for myself? Will this really be a deal breaker going forward. It's not something I'm good at, not something I like, and I feel like maybe the fact that it turns people off will weed out those not on my wave length. I have always been more about quality than quantity. What's pinging or are you just making fun of me or is that a real thing?
I think if you were a bit older this wouldn't be a huge deal (I don't think its a big deal, lol) but this is what people kind of expect these days.
Although webmail is not complicated... Maybe this could be a compromise.
I have email. People are welcome to email me though I don't check it often. I know how to use a computer obviously I have AOL and I play games on line and stuff.
He manages commercial and business property all over Portland, so he's not in his office most of the day. Clients have to reach him if they have a problem.
He manages commercial and business property all over Portland, so he's not in his office most of the day. Clients have to reach him if they have a problem.
I'm a 22 year old single guy, born and raised here in Brooklyn NY, Irish/Italian descent, car salesmen for a living and own my home (inherited). I don't think I am perfect by any means but I am confident that I am a decent person and not as completely undateable as it is starting to seem.
The last few people I have tried to date, guys and girls have complained that my lack of "modern" communication outlets makes me seem like I am trying to hide something and anti-social. Which is not true at all. I love socialising and I am not hiding anything. I just don't like a lot of the newer technology and think it's too much. My generations need for constant communication is so stupid, but for people who need to always communicate they really dislike talking.
I don't have any social networking profiles, and my cell phone is not a smart phone and it is difficult to text on. Regardless most of the time unless I am going somewhere that I am going to be out overnight, I don't bring my cell phone..it has 100 minutes on it anyways and it's main purpose is to call 911 or triple A or an emergency cab etc., I can count the times I have used it since I got it a year ago on one hand, and its my first phone that my mom basically forced me to get. The only way to contact me that is truly reliable is to call my home phone, and if I don't answer (which means I am not home) leave me a voicemail. I have not ever had a social networking account and my email is really just for work. I am not good with anything complicated on the computer and I don't like the fact that any info you put is always out there. With cell phones, they are great for safety things but I don't see the need to talk to someone while in the super market or walking my dog or something, it's just wierd for me.
I've gotten accused of having a double life, being shady, and called a recluse.
People are so averse to talking on the phone, that's how I enjoy getting to know someone: we exchange numbers and call each other and talk, but according to someone I was seeing "that's wierd and awkward". I think getting to know someone is wierd and awkward, things are all about how you say them. Also, for me at least texting is time consuming and saying "I'm fine, what about you?" takes about 3 seconds in real life, but about 90 seconds texting.
Conversely people feel as if I must be accessible constantly, I don't need to spend my life on the phone, it's ridiculous. For some reason it is so wierd that when I am at Target buying new bedsheets that I'm not availiable to speak. I had a conversation with a lady they went like this:
"What if you're not home and I want to tell you something but you're at work?"
"You wait till I get home."
"But what if I want to tell you then and need to hear back right then?!?"
"You can't. You have to wait till I get home to call you. If you want to make sure I call you when I get home than leave a message on the answering machine. I guess if you really need to say it you can tell it to my machine, but I won't hear it until I'm home."
"Wow you're so selfish"
What the hell? Am I really doing something wrong? I love the feeling of not being connected to anything but my surroundings. People are so out of touch with what's happening where they are at because instead of just focusing on what they are doing, they have to constantly be in communication with everyone or else they get freaked out and feel like they are missing something.
Would my lack of communication options beside a landline be a deal breaker? It's blowing my mind that this is even a big deal.
I'm a 22 year old single guy, born and raised here in Brooklyn NY, Irish/Italian descent, car salesmen for a living and own my home (inherited). I don't think I am perfect by any means but I am confident that I am a decent person and not as completely undateable as it is starting to seem.
The last few people I have tried to date, guys and girls have complained that my lack of "modern" communication outlets makes me seem like I am trying to hide something and anti-social. Which is not true at all. I love socialising and I am not hiding anything. I just don't like a lot of the newer technology and think it's too much. My generations need for constant communication is so stupid, but for people who need to always communicate they really dislike talking.
I don't have any social networking profiles, and my cell phone is not a smart phone and it is difficult to text on. Regardless most of the time unless I am going somewhere that I am going to be out overnight, I don't bring my cell phone..it has 100 minutes on it anyways and it's main purpose is to call 911 or triple A or an emergency cab etc., I can count the times I have used it since I got it a year ago on one hand, and its my first phone that my mom basically forced me to get. The only way to contact me that is truly reliable is to call my home phone, and if I don't answer (which means I am not home) leave me a voicemail. I have not ever had a social networking account and my email is really just for work. I am not good with anything complicated on the computer and I don't like the fact that any info you put is always out there. With cell phones, they are great for safety things but I don't see the need to talk to someone while in the super market or walking my dog or something, it's just wierd for me.
I've gotten accused of having a double life, being shady, and called a recluse.
People are so averse to talking on the phone, that's how I enjoy getting to know someone: we exchange numbers and call each other and talk, but according to someone I was seeing "that's wierd and awkward". I think getting to know someone is wierd and awkward, things are all about how you say them. Also, for me at least texting is time consuming and saying "I'm fine, what about you?" takes about 3 seconds in real life, but about 90 seconds texting.
Conversely people feel as if I must be accessible constantly, I don't need to spend my life on the phone, it's ridiculous. For some reason it is so wierd that when I am at Target buying new bedsheets that I'm not availiable to speak. I had a conversation with a lady they went like this:
"What if you're not home and I want to tell you something but you're at work?"
"You wait till I get home."
"But what if I want to tell you then and need to hear back right then?!?"
"You can't. You have to wait till I get home to call you. If you want to make sure I call you when I get home than leave a message on the answering machine. I guess if you really need to say it you can tell it to my machine, but I won't hear it until I'm home."
"Wow you're so selfish"
What the hell? Am I really doing something wrong? I love the feeling of not being connected to anything but my surroundings. People are so out of touch with what's happening where they are at because instead of just focusing on what they are doing, they have to constantly be in communication with everyone or else they get freaked out and feel like they are missing something.
Would my lack of communication options beside a landline be a deal breaker? It's blowing my mind that this is even a big deal.
It's blowing my mind too. Hard to believe that that many girls are so freaking desperate for attention. Because that's what it is. That is what the whole social media/cell-phone attachment/let-me-take-a-selfie era has done to the younger generation. It's a shame. But don't give up. I happen to know that there ARE young women out there that still appreciate a guy that is not attached to his phone and actually has more to do than post snapchats and tweet crap all day. Any female that truly has a good head on her shoulders will appreciate you for what you are. Keep looking - you'll find her.
I agree that we seem to be crippling our social skills, but at the same time, having a cell phone and carrying it with you doesn't mean you have to be available all the time and respond immediately to any message. You can have one and still be in total control of it, not a slave to it.
I do think you're creating a hardship for yourself if you're tying all of your communication methods to being at home or going home to retrieve messages. The world around you is making and solidifying plans while you wait until the end of the workday to drive home to find out what's going on. Even my own mother, at 68, got a Blackberry and learned to text. She always preferred talking on the phone to texting, but even she wanted to keep up.
Why is it making it hard for myself? Will this really be a deal breaker going forward. It's not something I'm good at, not something I like, and I feel like maybe the fact that it turns people off will weed out those not on my wave length. I have always been more about quality than quantity. What's pinging or are you just making fun of me or is that a real thing?
"Pinging". The way that poster used it is rather a slang context...I think maybe they meant blogging. But a "ping" is technically a program that lets you test whether or not a server is accessible.
I have email. People are welcome to email me though I don't check it often. I know how to use a computer obviously I have AOL and I play games on line and stuff.
AOL? Are you posting from 1995? Seems legit for a 22-y-o.
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