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This is where context and reading comprehension come in handy: I was replying to a poster regarding cheating in marriage, not the OP and her situation. If the Op wants to stay a virgin it's her prerogative, although, I do think the OP is creating her own problems by dating men who do not share her values.
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There you go! You are saying that this OP is "manipulaing him with sex and holding out". How's that? She is not. Can't you understand that she just wants to remain a virgin until she is married?
Why does everyone think waiting until marriage to have sex is such a bad thing?
Because you're on a forum where the posters are from a variety of cultures, backgrounds, and beliefs. You'll find that their approach will vary from couple to couple. But, that doesn't have a hill of beans to do with what works for you.
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Why does everyone think waiting until marriage to have sex is such a bad thing?
It isn't, but many can't seem to comprehend that. I don't think having sex before marriage is a bad thing either. To each their own.
Sex before, or sex after doesn't mean the marriage is going to be more of a success in any way. The divorce rates are just as high now, or higher than they used to be years ago when sex before marriage was considered taboo.
Divorce rates peaked in the 1970s and early 90s, and have been on a steady decline since.
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It isn't, but many can't seem to comprehend that. I don't think having sex before marriage is a bad thing either. To each their own.
Sex before, or sex after doesn't mean the marriage is going to be more of a success in any way. The divorce rates are just as high now, or higher than they used to be years ago when sex before marriage was considered taboo.
This is where context and reading comprehension come in handy: I was replying to a poster regarding cheating in marriage, not the OP and her situation. If the Op wants to stay a virgin it's her prerogative, although, I do think the OP is creating her own problems by dating men who do not share her values.
Well the OP can't walk around holding a sign that says "wanted, man who wants to HAVE a virgin and BE a virgin in his marriage bed" can she? She might date 10 men and the 11th will be the right one for her, value-wise. They are just two months into the relationship and she's made her feelings very clear to him on the subject, so if he doesn't "get it" then he'll leave her in the dust.
I would stop thinking so much about sex and in place of that spend time on self analysis on why you are so emotionally detached. Stop dating and spend time on yourself to get your head straight. Then if you find you desire a relationship with another then go for it with passion and gusto.
Why does everyone think waiting until marriage to have sex is such a bad thing?
There is no universal "it is" or "it isn't" bad, but when your in here overly curious and asking a bunch of questions to satisfy the curiosity the only real way to get answers is to go out and experience it. It is not something that can be book learned effectively in an academic environment.
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