I Respect You When it Comes to Sex (wife, how to, female)
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SEX is an extremely important part of a relationship.
WHY would you cleave yourself permanently to someone whose sexual appetites are utterly unknown?
Sounds like a recipe for disaster to me.
By the time they have decide to “cleave” themselves to one another there would have already been a considerable amount of dialogue, communication and assorted foreplay on the subject, if not the act itself, as they explored and learned about each other and got to know each other intimately. And you are right, anyone who would consider marriage without having an intimate understanding of their partner’s needs and desires would be a recipe for disaster and for some failed marriages there doesn’t seem to have been sufficient communication involved getting to know the other person on the deep intimate level needed to make it work for both people.
I suspect that she won't. She’s a great catch for the right guy for her. A lot of guys desire and seek out the rare unicorn that was willing to wait for them just as they waited for her.
I suspect that she won't. She’s a great catch for the right guy for her. A lot of guys desire and seek out the rare unicorn that was willing to wait for them just as they waited for her.
A lot of guys? Doubtful. A few guys? maybe.
Most people do not wait for marriage anymore unless they are very religious. And even a lot of very religious people don't wait for marriage. So I doubt that a lot of guys are looking for this "unicorn" and are also a "unicorn" themselves. A lot of guys don't want a virgin who is waiting for marriage - so they probably wouldn't consider her a unicorn at all. Not that there is anything wrong with staying true to yourself - but let's not dismiss reality.
Most people do not wait for marriage anymore unless they are very religious. And even a lot of very religious people don't wait for marriage. So I doubt that a lot of guys are looking for this "unicorn" and are also a "unicorn" themselves. A lot of guys don't want a virgin who is waiting for marriage - so they probably wouldn't consider her a unicorn at all. Not that there is anything wrong with staying true to yourself - but let's not dismiss reality.
Most people do not wait for marriage anymore unless they are very religious. And even a lot of very religious people don't wait for marriage. So I doubt that a lot of guys are looking for this "unicorn" and are also a "unicorn" themselves. A lot of guys don't want a virgin who is waiting for marriage - so they probably wouldn't consider her a unicorn at all. Not that there is anything wrong with staying true to yourself - but let's not dismiss reality.
Yep, many of the traditionally conservative couples don't wait either. They might "try" but in the end...
Whenever I would date a new guy, I would tell them I am a Virgin and I am saving myself for marriage to have sex. A lot of them understood, admired it, and respected me for it, by saying they would wait as long as it took, while dating me. Of course in the long run, a lot of them just left because sex was what they mainly wanted.
But there were a few guys that did wait a few years but things ended due to other reasons. Anyway this new guy I have spoken of a few times on these forums, who I have been dating for 2 months, knows I am not having sex until marriage and he respects that and is willing to wait.
Again, I have heard that "line" before. So how do I know he is being legit and not just going to be like the rest? He does seem serious in wanting to wait for me, he even told me, "Not if it means losing you. I mean I am not going to turn it down, and I can wait like when I first spoke to you, some people are worth waiting for, even years."
So what to do? Should I take his word for it or should I be on my guard and see what happens?
how old are you?
so while i know those "waiting until i get married" types still exists (and rare of course), i'm always suspicious if an attractive woman says that. at a minimum, it's usually an indication that she's not worth the time pursuing, particularly since i will end up feeding on porn while she makes me wait if i too want to be "loyal" just so i can accomodate her puritan ideals???? reality check plz...
Thank you for your response. I'm sorry that happened to you. Just goes to show you how unpredictable life can be. And that an individual's sexuality (and the sex life of a couple) is not a static thing. It is complex, dynamic and always changing throughout one's life.
In hindsight, I'm curious if there were indications of your SO "faking it" that you can see looking back on it, but you didn't see at the time. And I wonder what your spouse's motivation was behind the faking. What was there to gain by it? Off topic, I know. Sorry. It just sparked my curiosity is all.
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