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Why would anyone assume that mom has been a great mom. Maybe she's mean, controlling, abusive, a user and a liar?
Still, you would show some kind of respect. Not necessarily being fake or anything but simply showing some respect. A courtesy visit or call to make sure she's alright. Things like that can send the right message too.
Yes, the way a man treats his mother, father, siblings, friends, work, pets, environment, etc. is something women shouldn't ignore when a man is taking her out. It doesn't guarantee anything 100% but at least it gives you an idea.
Still, you would show some kind of respect. Not necessarily being fake or anything but simply showing some respect. A courtesy visit or call to make sure she's alright.
Been there done that. Pick up the phone, call, have a brief passive aggressive conversation over the phone, lays the guilt in like IV injection. Nothing solved, nothing gained. Ruins your weekend.
Currently my own mother (58) is not speaking with her own mother (82.) So the issue solve is not a panacea.
If my husband DID have a good relationship with his mom I would be more concerned. You have to look at someone's interactions with everyone in their life, I don't think one snippet would be very telling.
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There is a saying that "The way a man treats his mother is an indicator of how he'll treat his wife." I tend to believe this but would not want to judge all men in general.
I am curious of everyone's opinions. Do you believe that all men who do not respect their mothers or treat their mothers badly will treat their wives in the same way? Even, if - suppose - he has a good reason to be on bad terms with his mother?
FYI, I never liked the way my ex-boyfriend treated his mom (oftentimes he'd talk back to her in a very disrespectful way in my presence, and I found it very odd). This was one of the many, many reasons why I left him.
So just curious: do you think all men who disrespect their mothers are bound to do the same to their wives?
No. It depends on how the mom treats the son also. Mothers are not automatically objects of reverence just because they birthed a child. Some of them are complete and utter witches and deserve to be talked back to (if not more than that) I believe a more accurate adage should be, "The way a man treats most people around him is an indicator of how he'll treat his wife. Then lower that some after several years of marriage, and you have an accurate barometer."
Theoretically, I was down with this idea when I got married. My husband treated his mom well, deferential to her moods, did things just to make her happy. His dad treated her well also, so I figured he was a good role model.
Turned out that husband placed his mothers needs above mine, repeatedly, and with emphasis. He also competed with me for her attention, which led him to throw me under the bus a few times when things went wrong. She must have thought I was crazy, some of the things he told her I said and did, when he was just covering his own mistakes.
So I think it is a better practice to notice how a man treats ALL other people.
Yes, it's a decent indicator, as is the way he treats animals.
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I believe a more accurate adage should be, "The way a man treats most people around him is an indicator of how he'll treat his wife. Then lower that some after several years of marriage, and you have an accurate barometer."
