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If I were wiser I guess I'd look for a strong, independent woman who proudly states her lack of need for a man but who values my ambition more than her own, who wants me to protect her, to demonstrate my caring through other signs of courtliness like paying for stuff, yet wants me to "not take any of her crap", and probably one who wants me to kill bugs, unless killing bugs falls under protecting her in which case listing it again is redundant, or maybe telling her to kill her own bugs is an example of not taking any of her crap and so some punctuation.
Woman ask me all the time what am I looking for in a woman or what is my type.
Anyways what do you guys tell girls when they ask you this question?
First and foremost, I absolutely must find her to be physically attractive. Without this, there is no hope or potential for any romantic relationship. We could be friends, but never anything more than that if she's not attractive.
Everything else just kinda falls in line after the initial attraction. We must have mutual interests like interest in the arts, active lifestyle, passion for fitness/health, positive energy levels, etc.
But absolutely without the physical attraction, there will be no hope for a romantic relationship.
First and foremost, I absolutely must find her to be physically attractive. Without this, there is no hope or potential for any romantic relationship. We could be friends, but never anything more than that if she's not attractive.
Everything else just kinda falls in line after the initial attraction. We must have mutual interests like interest in the arts, active lifestyle, passion for fitness/health, positive energy levels, etc.
But absolutely without the physical attraction, there will be no hope for a romantic relationship.
Can we just clear up the notion of finding someone physically attractive versus some weird standard or scale of attractiveness that some believe everyone must fall into?
I believe most everyone has to be physically attracted to their partner, but that is not the same as whether a bunch of other people think that person is a 3 or a 6 or a 9. As long as you find them physically attractive, how other people might "rate" them doesn't matter. They are physically attractive TO YOU, the end.
Can we just clear up the notion of finding someone physically attractive versus some weird standard or scale of attractiveness that some believe everyone must fall into?
I believe most everyone has to be physically attracted to their partner, but that is not the same as whether a bunch of other people think that person is a 3 or a 6 or a 9. As long as you find them physically attractive, how other people might "rate" them doesn't matter. They are physically attractive TO YOU, the end.
Been plenty of relationships were the person was not physically attracted to their SO. But grew to be attracted to them later on. Obviously the attraction was due to other things.
Who is trying to say what other people rate them is important? Not sure ive seen anyone claim that.
Been plenty of relationships were the person was not physically attracted to their SO. But grew to be attracted to them later on. Obviously the attraction was due to other things.
Who is trying to say what other people rate them is important? Not sure ive seen anyone claim that.
The assumption from the anti-rating people is that the person using a number assumes that others use the same number. Obviously, this isn't true, but that's the assumption.
If I call someone "an 8" or whatever, it's meant to be a description of how attractive I find them, and then they can use their own basis for comparison. They can envision "an 8" in their own minds and have a relative basis of understanding for how attractive I find them, even though our two images likely look nothing alike. That's really all I have to say about that.
Regarding the OP:
Here's a rough order. It fluctuates, but not drastically. From top to bottom:
Not stupid (note that this is intended to be different than "intelligent")
Interesting
Not unattractive (note that this is intended to be different than "attractive")
Confident
Intelligent
Ambitious
Attractive
Sense of humor
I'm positive I'm forgetting something but if it doesn't spring to mind, it must not be TOO much of a priority! But all of the above are important to some extent. Most other things are flexible.
The assumption from the anti-rating people is that the person using a number assumes that others use the same number. Obviously, this isn't true, but that's the assumption.
If I call someone "an 8" or whatever, it's meant to be a description of how attractive I find them, and then they can use their own basis for comparison. They can envision "an 8" in their own minds and have a relative basis of understanding for how attractive I find them, even though our two images likely look nothing alike. That's really all I have to say about that.
Not sure why anyone assumes that. If a guy tells me he went on a date with an 8, the only thing that I am going to assume or think is that he went on a date with a woman he finds really attractive. When I use a number system, I do not assume or think other people use the same.
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Regarding the OP:
Here's a rough order. It fluctuates, but not drastically. From top to bottom:
Not stupid (note that this is intended to be different than "intelligent")
Interesting
Not unattractive (note that this is intended to be different than "attractive")
Confident
Intelligent
Ambitious
Attractive
Sense of humor
I'm positive I'm forgetting something but if it doesn't spring to mind, it must not be TOO much of a priority! But all of the above are important to some extent. Most other things are flexible.
Not sure why anyone assumes that. If a guy tells me he went on a date with an 8, the only thing that I am going to assume or think is that he went on a date with a woman he finds really attractive. When I use a number system, I do not assume or think other people use the same.
You got me. Just calling it as I see it.
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Originally Posted by MEDALLOKUYA
Thats a heavy list you got there
Tell me about it. But I mostly date casually these days, which is a different, more manageable list
Not unattractive
Interesting
Not stupid
Fun/funny
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