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To buy time usually. Peace. Working a 50 hour week then spending your weekend on the Honey Do list only works part of the time. Even a draft animal needs a break.
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No wonder these people are your exes.
You don't know the half of it. My first wife got strung out on oxycontin, ended up in an Arizona prison and left me with a 5 yr old girl. No wonder she's my ex? No chit. Thankfully I had a sister that became her mother.
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You both lied to each other more or less chronically, and thought nothing of it.
There in lies the conundrum. We met in 1996, decided to raise our daughters together in 1998 and divorced in 2013. We were both very strong willed people and respected that in each other. I think for me the little lies were just said for the reasons above. I wonder if avoiding certain situations was what kept us together for so long. She could be a nag at times. Any guy on this forum can sympathize with what I'm saying.
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Why did your wife suspect you of having an affair?
That's not what this thread is about.
I think that lying can sometimes grease the skids in a relationship, if a person is being too pushy a bad situation can be avoided.
To buy time usually. Peace. Working a 50 hour week then spending your weekend on the Honey Do list only works part of the time. Even a draft animal needs a break.
You don't know the half of it. My first wife got strung out on oxycontin, ended up in an Arizona prison and left me with a 5 yr old girl. No wonder she's my ex? No chit. Thankfully I had a sister that became her mother.
There in lies the conundrum. We met in 1996, decided to raise our daughters together in 1998 and divorced in 2013. We were both very strong willed people and respected that in each other. I think for me the little lies were just said for the reasons above. I wonder if avoiding certain situations was what kept us together for so long. She could be a nag at times. Any guy on this forum can sympathize with what I'm saying.
That's not what this thread is about.
I think that lying can sometimes grease the skids in a relationship, if a person is being too pushy a bad situation can be avoided.
Learn how to communicate and get some self-esteem. Then you won't feel like you "have" to lie.
Learn how to communicate and get some self-esteem. Then you won't feel like you "have" to lie.
You don't know my second wife, she had a good heart, she was an excellent mother and overall a great person but she had a picc poor set of ears at times.
You need to learn to focus on the subject at hand.
If my husband is tired and isn't going to start on a project that needs to be done, he says he's tired and going to do it later. Same for me. No need to le about anything.
You don't know my second wife, she had a good heart, she was an excellent mother and overall a great person but she had a picc poor set of ears at times.
You need to learn to focus on the subject at hand.
No, you need to grow some confidence and some communication skills.
If you can't be honest with the person you supposedly love more than anyone in the world, why even bother?
If you can't be honest with the person you supposedly love more than anyone in the world, why even bother?
You got it!! Why be honest? Are you lying to yourself?
I bothered to tell a small lie to my wife to put her mind at ease, to create an equilibrium instead of an imbalance. Believe me on some things such as planning a trip or a project or something she needed to be concerned about I wouldn't lie, the usual/common answer was "I don't have a good answer for you yet" or "I don't know yet".
It's not about self esteem either, it's about technique. It was more about picking ones battles, we were both very good at that. Above all it's about consoling the one you care about and keeping a balance on your side, in your mind.
You got it!! Why be honest? Are you lying to yourself?
I bothered to tell a small lie to my wife to put her mind at ease, to create an equilibrium instead of an imbalance. Believe me on some things such as planning a trip or a project or something she needed to be concerned about I wouldn't lie, the usual/common answer was "I don't have a good answer for you yet" or "I don't know yet".
It's not about self esteem either, it's about technique. It was more about picking ones battles, we were both very good at that. Above all it's about consoling the one you care about and keeping a balance on your side, in your mind.
Honey, this ^^^ is just rationalization.
Whatever you need to tell yourself to get through the day. It ain't good.
You got it!! Why be honest? Are you lying to yourself?
I bothered to tell a small lie to my wife to put her mind at ease, to create an equilibrium instead of an imbalance. Believe me on some things such as planning a trip or a project or something she needed to be concerned about I wouldn't lie, the usual/common answer was "I don't have a good answer for you yet" or "I don't know yet".
It's not about self esteem either, it's about technique. It was more about picking ones battles, we were both very good at that. Above all it's about consoling the one you care about and keeping a balance on your side, in your mind.
No, it's about deflection.
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