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We've been dating 2 months, intimate, he's 60 I'm 54. So last weekend we spent a fun day in my hometown, sight seeing, art galleries, had dinner then back home for a movie etc...The anniversary of his wife's death was wednesday; she's been gone a year, they were married 34 years. He called thursday nite, said he was doing ok, his grown kids had a tough time. They are not supporting his dating me (we've not met).
His work is busy, he might have to work today (saturday) and he needed to go to his cabin 4 hours away. He asked what I was doing, and I said a tentative thing with some girlfriends saturday and sunday I had plans with another girlfriend group. I made up my tentative saturday plans, so it didn't seem like I was waiting around hoping he and I would be getting together, which is what I did. No word/text from him since thursday nite. Is it inappropriate for me to hope for a call/text? Did something happen during the family get-together for the anniversary of the wife's death? I don't want to pressure him, but what do you think is going on? Admittedly, he's busy helping his daughter move too.
What are your thoughts, should I text him or see if he calls tonite? I'm acting like it's High-school all over again, what a drag.....
We've been dating 2 months, intimate, he's 60 I'm 54. So last weekend we spent a fun day in my hometown, sight seeing, art galleries, had dinner then back home for a movie etc...The anniversary of his wife's death was wednesday; she's been gone a year, they were married 34 years. He called thursday nite, said he was doing ok, his grown kids had a tough time. They are not supporting his dating me (we've not met).
His work is busy, he might have to work today (saturday) and he needed to go to his cabin 4 hours away. He asked what I was doing, and I said a tentative thing with some girlfriends saturday and sunday I had plans with another girlfriend group. I made up my tentative saturday plans, so it didn't seem like I was waiting around hoping he and I would be getting together, which is what I did. No word/text from him since thursday nite. Is it inappropriate for me to hope for a call/text? Did something happen during the family get-together for the anniversary of the wife's death? I don't want to pressure him, but what do you think is going on? Admittedly, he's busy helping his daughter move too.
What are your thoughts, should I text him or see if he calls tonite? I'm acting like it's High-school all over again, what a drag.....
Suck up your pride and give the guy a call to see how he is doing.
Suck up your pride and give the guy a call to see how he is doing.
You are thinking about yourself way too much.
I have an issue with this.
Women of a certain age have been taught that the MEN do the calling.
Women of an even younger age have been taught (anyone remember He's Just Not That Into You?) that the men will call if they are interested.
So here we sit, staring at the phone, unwilling to seem desperate (God forbid) or prying at whatever FAR MORE IMPORTANT event said Man has going on in His Life.
Our lives apparently, do not need enquiring on by the Men, being so unimportant in comparison I suppose.
Women of a certain age have been taught that the MEN do the calling.
Women of an even younger age have been taught (anyone remember He's Just Not That Into You?) that the men will call if they are interested.
So here we sit, staring at the phone, unwilling to seem desperate (God forbid) or prying at whatever FAR MORE IMPORTANT event said Man has going on in His Life.
Our lives apparently, do not need enquiring on by the Men, being so unimportant in comparison I suppose.
Your situation is not exactly like the OP's, however.
Dixie, I think you need to relax. A year is nothing when you've been married 34 years. It's the first anniversary of her death. Give him space.
Women of a certain age have been taught that the MEN do the calling.
Women of an even younger age have been taught (anyone remember He's Just Not That Into You?) that the men will call if they are interested.
So here we sit, staring at the phone, unwilling to seem desperate (God forbid) or prying at whatever FAR MORE IMPORTANT event said Man has going on in His Life.
Our lives apparently, do not need enquiring on by the Men, being so unimportant in comparison I suppose.
Why? WHY are you sitting, staring at the phone? Get the hell out up out of the house and go DO something. Work in the yard. Go shopping. Go see a movie. Go ANYWHERE. I will never understand this waiting by the phone nonsense.
Why? WHY are you sitting, staring at the phone? Get the hell out up out of the house and go DO something. Work in the yard. Go shopping. Go see a movie. Go ANYWHERE. I will never understand this waiting by the phone nonsense.
Because I have Borderline Personality Disorder and have been triggered despite my own best intentions.
Because I have Borderline Personality Disorder and have been triggered despite my own best intentions.
Then you don't need to be dating anyone.
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