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I'd honestly just leave him. Sounds like bad news. I've been in abusive living situations before and it's not fun. Get out of there, go back to your family if you need to and they are supportive. Even if you love him, you need to love yourself too.
The problem with "leaving him" is that a boyfriend already knows where you live, where you work, what you do for leisure, your family, etc... Your lives are already entangled. This is a very different situation from simply breaking up with a boyfriend and going separate ways.
For assault cases like this, I have rarely seen any other recourse than involving the authorities and pressing charges. If it happens again (hopefully not), then the authorities will take into account the previous charges as well. If the sexual assault happens again (again hopefully not)... do not wash up... go directly to the police.
If I had done that to my wife ex-wife of 17 years at any time I would have been lucky to be alive. She never got aggressive/physical with me, strong words from both sides occasionally and a pillow in the face but NEVER combat between us.
If he was any kind of individual to be respected he would not have done that too you. If he had any respect FOR YOU he would not have been sloppy drunk in your home without your consent.
If he valued you as a person and not a PLAY TOY this never would have happened.
If you have a BRAIN you will never be anywhere near this guy alone again. Respect and care for yourself, FIRST.
I recommend telling him to get out of your life forever. Change your locks and if he shows up at your door again call the cops and have him arrested, tell them what happened. Press charges.
MEN CAN BE VERY DANGEROUS AND UNPREDICTABLE WHEN YOUNG ANGRY HURT DRUNK AND BEING GENERALLY WITLESS.
Unless you want a life full of more of the same DUMP HIM and find someone who values you and treats you the way you deserve to be treated....You may care for him but his actions prove that he doesn't feel the same....When he sobers up he will grovel and apologize but if you believe his apology be ready to repeat this day over and over again.....Don't go down the road so many before you have gone. You will find somebody else to love and wonder why you even asked what you should do.....
Pay close heed to this. You'll be given a choice. He'll grovel beg whine and plead and if you listen to him and let him WIN you will only get more of the same. As sure as the sun rises in the east and sets in the west.
Me and my boyfriend had a fight . We didn't talk to each other for a few days. Yesterday, I entered my house and I saw him there, sitting on the couch, waiting for me (he has the keys). He was clearly drunk . I told him to leave , but he wouldn't . He then started sexually assaulting me. I told him to stop but he wouldn't so I slapped him in the face. He then became really angry and hit me back (much harder) . I stopped fighting it and let him have his way because I got terrified . We had sex but now I feel bad and I don't know what to think about him.
We haven't talked since then and I don't know what to do . I have feelings for him but I can't believe he hit me so hard.
I won't go to the police because I see it as a waste of time . There is no evidence that I was sexually assaulted .
I still have feelings for my boyfriend. Do you think I should give him a chance ? Talk to him ? What should I do ?
If he hit you that hard, there should be a bruise. That's evidence. There may be evidence of a sexual assault. Anyway, you can report the battering, and add in the sexual assault, but say you didn't go to the hospital, and don't know if it's too late to check for evidence.
If you're a student, go to the student clinic. If you're not a student, try a free clinic if you don't have insurance. And change your locks.
Leave him. Cut him off completely from you're life and don't look back. You may have to press charges or set a restraining order against him. Unless you want worse, do the opposite of what I've just said. If you want freedom, stability and peace of mind, look at what others and I have expressed. Leave Now.
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