You ever had someone avoid you because they didn't want to get attached? (relations, reason)

[Gabriella Geramia]

I'm having a hard time understanding that. Yes, they don't want to get hurt, but it seems cowardly to me. The risk of pain reaps rewards. Sometimes.

[reneeh63]

No one is obligated to get involved with anyone else...whether their reason makes sense to you or not! Why would you want to get involved with someone who is hesitant? Do you think you know better than they? Or do you want a "project"?

Move along....

[MoonBeam33]

Originally Posted by GKelly

I'm having a hard time understanding that. Yes, they don't want to get hurt, but it seems cowardly to me. The risk of pain reaps rewards. Sometimes.

I think it depends on the situation. I recently ended a relationship because he was not as in to me as I was in to him. I really like him and want to be with him, but not if he doesn't see the relationship going anywhere. So I'm not staying away from him to avoid getting hurt in the sense that I don't want to get attached - I was already attached. I just don't want to continue the hurt unnecessarily.

[Auraliea]

Hmmm it's hard to say. Some people just can't handle the emotional roller coaster of relationships so it's understandable why they opt out. Some just don't think anybody is really worth putting up with in a relationship.

Regardless it's their choice. I wouldn't want to be with someone who is hesitant or doesn't think I am worth their time. Playing hero is not my thing.