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Old 05-16-2015, 01:31 PM
 
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How can I get my work crush to notice me?


There are a few other pretty girls in the office.


I know men are visual and it's probably too late to get his attention now, when he most likely is attracted to another girl in the office, more than he is attracted to me.


For a short while I thought he did like me, but then he he stopped talking to me and I've seen him talking to the other girls and being friendly with them, and then acting like I don't exist.

I'm not entirely sure how men's minds work. Are they just interested in you until something prettier comes around?

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Old 05-16-2015, 01:34 PM
 
Location: Lansing, MI
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Best advice I can give you..

My auntie always told me not to get your meat where you get your bread.



Don't ruin a decent job environment by adding drama. In the end, it is just not worth it.
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Old 05-16-2015, 01:46 PM
 
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Best advice I can give you..

My auntie always told me not to get your meat where you get your bread.



Don't ruin a decent job environment by adding drama. In the end, it is just not worth it.
This. Bad idea.

In any other situation I would tell you to be be direct and not to play coy or games or anything like that. This instance, no.
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Old 05-16-2015, 01:49 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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How can I get my work crush to notice me?


There are a few other pretty girls in the office.


I know men are visual and it's probably too late to get his attention now, when he most likely is attracted to another girl in the office, more than he is attracted to me.


For a short while I thought he did like me, but then he he stopped talking to me and I've seen him talking to the other girls and being friendly with them, and then acting like I don't exist.

I'm not entirely sure how men's minds work. Are they just interested in you until something prettier comes around?
If he hasn't noticed you by now, why TRY so hard? Wouldn't you want to be with someone who is really into you, not someone you had to convince to like you?
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Old 05-16-2015, 01:55 PM
 
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If he hasn't noticed you by now, why TRY so hard? Wouldn't you want to be with someone who is really into you, not someone you had to convince to like you?

I like him. And I thought we had chemistry and I thought he may have liked me. But then he began to act like I didn't exist and I would see him be friendly with the other women. I don't understand it.
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Old 05-16-2015, 01:57 PM
 
Location: New Yawk
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Very wise words indeed.
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Best advice I can give you..

My auntie always told me not to get your meat where you get your bread.



Don't ruin a decent job environment by adding drama. In the end, it is just not worth it.
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Old 05-16-2015, 01:58 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I like him. And I thought we had chemistry and I thought he may have liked me. But then he began to act like I didn't exist and I would see him be friendly with the other women. I don't understand it.
You may never understand it.

But don't worry about it. His acting like you don't exist after being friendly to you says enough about his character that you should not give him one more minute of thought.
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Old 05-16-2015, 01:59 PM
 
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I like him. And I thought we had chemistry and I thought he may have liked me. But then he began to act like I didn't exist and I would see him be friendly with the other women. I don't understand it.
OP:

There is much more than chemistry in any type of dating relationship.

And regarding his behavior ...

Actions speak louder than words.
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Old 05-16-2015, 02:00 PM
 
Location: Bloomington IN
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Not to be too harsh, but if he was interested in you, he wouldn't be acting like you don't exist.

Be thankful because you have dodged a bullet here. Work and play don't mix. Attempting to get him to notice you at work is unprofessional at best. Follow the good advice given here--don't mix work and relationships.
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Old 05-16-2015, 02:06 PM
 
Location: Lansing, MI
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Not every guy or gal that is nice to you wants to sleep with you. Sometimes they just have common courtesy.
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