Ethical Non-Monogamy? Is this really a trend? (men, cheated, older)
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What is the point of getting married, if you don't plan on being faithful to that person?
I have had friends that have pursued the polyamory thing and I just want to smack them in the face.
You can't honestly expect to live like that and not end up hurt or hurt someone else.
Humans aren't wired that way.
A very good friend of mine was married for about 15 years. He and his wife decided on the "open marriage" concept to spice up their life a little bit.
Their divorce was finalized last month. That worked out well...
Maybe, if they stayed together longer than if they hadn't. Being monogamous doesn't protect against divorce. If they were trying to spice things up, they may have already been on the road to splitting up.
I wouldn't do it but if it works for some couples and as long as everyone is honest, I can't see a problem with it. I'm too possessive as is my husband and I like it that way. Everyone's different and I can't/won't judge others for wanting what they want. I can say it's sure as hell better than cheating on a unsuspecting partner.
Not for me. It's not a moral issue for me. I just can't have intimate sex with someone with whom I'm not also emotionally intimate. I've always had trouble getting close to people, to women especially. I've had lots of sex in my life. I've been married twice. But i have only been able to feel both completely safe and a deep intimate connection with one woman, my wife now, and i wouldn't trade these for anything. We make love, now, more than we did when we met 18 years ago and it is even more fulfilling now than then, both physically and emotionally.
What is the point of getting married, if you don't plan on being faithful to that person?
To raise a family, build a life with someone you love, grow old with a trusted spouse, have a lifelong confidante and lover, take care of one another ... ?
I wouldn't do it but if it works for some couples and as long as everyone is honest, I can't see a problem with it. I'm too possessive as is my husband and I like it that way. Everyone's different and I can't/won't judge others for wanting what they want. I can say it's sure as hell better than cheating on a unsuspecting partner.
To raise a family, build a life with someone you love, grow old with a trusted spouse, have a lifelong confidante and lover, take care of one another ... ?
Marriage is symbolically the ULTIMATE commitment. It doesn't make sense to get married vowing to stay committed to one another, but to go sleep around with whoever you want. That will fall apart so fast. When someone deeply cares about another person, they become instinctively territorial whether they realize it or not.
Marriage is symbolically the ULTIMATE commitment. It doesn't make sense to get married vowing to stay committed to one another, but to go sleep around with whoever you want. That will fall apart so fast. When someone deeply cares about another person, they become instinctively territorial whether they realize it or not.
You think it's wrong, good for you, don't engage in that lifestyle. Who are you to make the decision for others? Her first marriage ended because of the sneaking and lying which she is trying to remove from the equation. And how do you know what their vows said?
How am I making a decision for them? Why do people see having an opinion as telling someone what to do? I just don't agree with their decision.
I am stating whether they explicitly said it or not, it was clearly understood that their relationship was intended to be monogamous at first, which is why she had to have the conversation. Whether it was in vows or it was implied, it's clear that was the expectation of their relationship.
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