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Well I had gone out on a date with a very well dressed, highly attractive, intelligent, and well to do female who lives in one of the hippest parts of the city whom I had met online. In truth, while conversing with her I couldn't imagine why she needed an online profile, much less stated that she found dating overall to be difficult. I thought she was a real catch. Come to find out that none of her first dates she had met online had ever turned into second dates. Myself included.
Did you ask her for a second date and she turned you down?
Did you ask her for a second date and she turned you down?
Yes pretty much, but even before we met she told me that she hated first dates because they never seem to go well. Sorta a nice way to start a relationship right? During dinner she told me she had connected with 4 or 5 other dudes online but she just wasn't feeling them for whatever reason.
Another reason, women go online, is because many men don't ask them out anymore. People have all these activities, and go out, but no one goes out to meet people anymore, so online dating becomes a must. I have even gone to singles events and happy hours, and we spend more time chatting, instead of making a connection or making plans to talk afterwards. Meeting people in person has seem to become a lost art these days.
You meet a person at a bar who likes how you look and you feel the same about them. You engage in light conversation with them. You agree to a date after some light banter. You go on a date with him and you find out that you disagree on pretty much every issue that is important to you. Lotsa time wasted, ya know?
You go online. On most dating sites you can see political affiliation, major interests, core values, key hangups, etc. 5 minutes later you jump to another likely looking profile if the first doesn't please you. Very little time wasted.
Kapish?
All of this.
Online dating is a fantastic tool that is great for weeding out non-matches and finding compatible matches, with little time wasted getting to know people you're incompatible with. It worked great for me.
Another reason, women go online, is because many men don't ask them out anymore. People have all these activities, and go out, but no one goes out to meet people anymore, so online dating becomes a must. I have even gone to singles events and happy hours, and we spend more time chatting, instead of making a connection or making plans to talk afterwards. Meeting people in person has seem to become a lost art these days.
There is a lot of truth to this. I have friends who won't even ask a woman out at all unless she's online--mainly because they don't know of she's single or not. Although it seems silly to go to singles events and not ask women out... then again, the ones in my area tend to fill up with women first and then they need men only. So unless a guy is going to ask out more than one woman at those things, several women are walking home empty handed so to speak.
I hate the sigma towards OLD.Not everyone on there is crazy or ugly.
Yeah, but there is a lot of that online. I think that's why there is the reputation. And it doesn't take a lot for a few crazies to scare the normal ones away. It's like a fart in an elevator--just takes one to make the others scatter.
Despite my objections and hatred of online dating, I have to confess I actually found someone online recently. We've only been dating the past few weeks. But I found someone good looking, kind and considerate, mentally stable, financially stable, who seems to have a similar sense of humor and very similar interests, and who seems to think I am a great catch too (said it was great to meet a "normal" person like me after meeting a lot of nuts, alcoholics, and people eager to get married after date #1... although I am not sure how normal I really am, lol).
They do it to get ATTENTION. That's the ONLY reason
Wrong!
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Why limit yourself to just off-line encounters?
