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You know, most people I know in life are open, easy-going individuals; most of them happily coupled; and most met "organically", if you will... but as a guy reading profiles online, I really wouldn't want to even be in line behind the vast majority of them at a grocery store. I rarely feel inclined to message anybody after reading their profiles.
I mean, I'm actively looking... mainly because the organic approach ain't offering up jack these days... maybe I'm insufferable as well and just don't realize it. Maybe there's some self-selection bias going on here based on personality type. Just pondering while I wait for my hairdresser to free up...
Most people you know are easy going and happily coupled? Really?
And what is this "organic approach"? You picking out a date or melons in a store? (or maybe both).
I think you are perhaps over thinking things. Relax, get your hair done. Maybe your hairdresser will be that organic person you are in search of. Or maybe you can tell her about your posting and she (or he) can fix you up with a friend. Sometimes you can try so hard for the longest time and nothing happens. Then sometimes things happen when you least expect it--and they are often the best and most long lasting.
Most people you know are easy going and happily coupled? Really?
And what is this "organic approach"? You picking out a date or melons in a store? (or maybe both).
I think you are perhaps over thinking things. Relax, get your hair done. Maybe your hairdresser will be that organic person you are in search of. Or maybe you can tell her about your posting and she (or he) can fix you up with a friend. Sometimes you can try so hard for the longest time and nothing happens. Then sometimes things happen when you least expect it--and they are often the best and most long lasting.
I think that " just letting things happen" is what the OP means by " organically" as opposed to researching them ( as in OLD profiles). Yup... Meeting them cold like picking out melons at the store.
Can you give examples of how they are insufferable? I doubt anyone is insufferable on purpose.
Do you have an online dating account? If not, make a dummy one and start pursuing. It doesn't take much to start thinking they didn't get the honey before vinegar speech.
Do you have an online dating account? If not, make a dummy one and start pursuing. It doesn't take much to start thinking they didn't get the honey before vinegar speech.
I do have one that's been inactive for a long time, but you still haven't given examples of what you mean. Are you talking about the people who say "I'm done with games," and crap like that?
I do have one that's been inactive for a long time, but you still haven't given examples of what you mean. Are you talking about the people who say "I'm done with games," and crap like that?
Yeah, that's tip of the iceberg, but more-or-less. Complaints, demands, snide attitudes, assumptions about the reader, unwelcoming communication styles abound... too often contained in profiles telling me nothing of themselves. Nothing to connect on.
Just guarded, anti-social, borderline autistic write ups. I can only imagine what their cover letters on job applications are like.
They're only insufferable if they're your friends and all they do is complain about being single and then they commit all the red flags you told them not to do because that drives people away, like being too desperate.
Yeah, that's tip of the iceberg, but more-or-less. Complaints, demands, snide attitudes, assumptions about the reader, unwelcoming communication styles abound... too often contained in profiles telling me nothing of themselves. Nothing to connect on.
Just guarded, anti-social, borderline autistic write ups. I can only imagine what their cover letters on job applications are like.
A lot of people write "If you want to know more message me" and I find that insufferable. You already barely told me anything and now you want ME to message YOU and waste my own time? Nope.
I imagine girls get away with this more than guys since a lot of guys on OLD just look at the picture.
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Maybe there's some self-selection bias going on here based on personality type. Just pondering while I wait for my hairdresser to free up...
